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What Jiu-Jitsu Gets Wrong About Masculinity
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In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models is joined by Jesse Walker of Rough Hands BJJ, Mike Mahaffey of Old Bastard BJJ, and mental health advocate David Figueroa-Martinez to challenge the outdated definitions of masculinity still thriving in the Jiu-Jitsu world.
Why are men in Jiu-Jitsu still afraid to talk about emotion?
Whatâs the cost of performative toughness on and off the mats?
And how can coaches reshape gym culture to support real growthâfor everyone?
This isnât about making BJJ "softer." Itâs about making it stronger, by fostering vulnerability, empathy, and honesty in an often hypermasculine sport.
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đĽ Featuring:
⢠Jesse Walker @RoughHandsBJJ
⢠Mike Mahaffey @OldBastardBJJ
⢠David Figueroa-Martinez @dfm.2099
⢠Steve Kwan @bjjmentalmodels
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đ§ Topics We Cover:
⢠Why emotional repression hurts male athletes
⢠The damage done by âfake toughnessâ in Jiu-Jitsu
⢠Why coaching is about more than just technique
⢠How to build mentally healthy gym culture
⢠The double standard for male vs female emotion
⢠Why acknowledging weakness is a sign of strength
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đ Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
02:58 Exploring Men's Mental Health
05:59 Emotional Intelligence in Men
08:49 Generational Perspectives on Emotions
11:53 The Impact of Media on Masculinity
14:44 The Role of Vulnerability in Leadership
17:35 Navigating Grief and Loss
20:29 The Dichotomy of Progress and Pushback
23:30 The Importance of Authenticity in Coaching
37:28 The Performative Coach
38:55 Vulnerability in Coaching
39:25 The Evolving Stigma of Mental Health
40:39 Public Figures and Mental Health
41:38 Emotional Vulnerability in Leadership
43:41 Relatability in Leadership
45:30 The Mask of Professionalism
47:47 The Role of Jiu-Jitsu in Mental Health
49:03 Emotional Intelligence and Anger
51:15 The Dangers of Anger
53:21 Generational Challenges
56:35 Cultural Backlash and Representation
58:03 The Impact of Social Media
01:00:55 Cyberbullying and Youth Challenges
01:03:41 The Role of Jiu-Jitsu Coaches
01:05:17 Authenticity in Coaching
01:07:22 The True Essence of Coaching
01:09:15 Redefining Success in Coaching
01:11:01 Closing Thoughts on Authenticity
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