The Confession That Changed Everything

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What happens when a pastor of 20 years realizes he was never truly saved? Hal Selby's powerful testimony reveals the transformative journey from secret sin to authentic freedom that began with a startling revelation while preparing a sermon on Cain and Abel.
For decades, Hal lived a double life - preaching from the pulpit while secretly struggling with same-sex attraction. Satan had convinced him that if anyone discovered his secret, he would lose everything - his wife, family, ministry, and calling. The weight of this deception created a cycle of acting out, self-hatred, and desperate pleas for forgiveness that never brought lasting peace.
The turning point came when God showed Hal that despite his seminary degrees and successful ministry, he had never truly been born again. After his genuine conversion experience, Hal faced the terrifying prospect of telling his wife about his hidden struggles. Her response was nothing short of miraculous: "I forgive you and I'm not leaving." Though their journey wasn't easy, requiring counseling and tremendous emotional work, their marriage not only survived but eventually thrived.
Today, Hal and Lisa lead Refuge461, a ministry offering help and hope to those impacted by homosexuality. Their work embodies the beautiful paradox of Christian redemption - that our greatest struggles can become our most powerful ministry opportunities when surrendered to God. As Hal explains, "I'm not trying to get free from homosexuality. When I got saved, Jesus freed me from the bondage of sin. I'm learning now to live in the freedom that is already mine in Christ."
Whether you're battling secret sin, questioning the authenticity of your faith, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers three transformative truths: grace is God's unearned favor, forgiveness in Christ is total and complete, and true freedom means no longer being defined by your past. Ready to experience this freedom? It begins with bringing everything into the light.

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Chapters

1. Host Introduction and Secret Sins (00:00:00)

2. Hal's Story of Hidden Struggle (00:04:13)

3. Moment of Truth and Salvation (00:10:57)

4. Confession to Wife and Church (00:17:50)

5. Refuge461 Ministry and Living Free (00:22:11)

6. Three Power Thoughts for Freedom (00:27:36)