Relationship Expert Reveals Why 80% Relationships Are Doomed to FAIL _ Rick Hanson

Growth Minds with Sean Kim

Dr. Rick Hanson is a psychologist, senior fellow of UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, and bestselling author known for bridging neuroscience, mindfulness, and positive psychology. His work focuses on how the brain can be trained for greater resilience, happiness, and inner strength. Through books such as Hardwiring Happiness and Resilient, Dr. Hanson shares practical, science-based tools to cultivate well-being and reduce stress. He is also a popular speaker and teacher, offering workshops and online programs that integrate psychology, meditation, and neuroscience for personal growth.

In our conversation we discuss:
(00:00) – Misunderstandings about relationships
(04:00) – Love as a practice and skill
(08:00) – Brain science and romance
(12:00) – Following emotions versus awareness
(16:00) – The value of mindfulness
(20:00) – Acknowledging feelings and avoidance
(24:00) – Negative rumination and brain circuits
(28:00) – Exploring what lies beneath rumination
(32:00) – Healing after heartbreak
(36:00) – Building confidence and self-worth
(40:00) – Imposter syndrome and motivation
(44:00) – Letting go of inherited beliefs
(48:00) – Practical steps for self-respect
(52:00) – Choosing the right partner
(56:00) – Signs of emotional availability
(1:00:00) – Avoidant attachment and relationships
(1:04:00) – Moving on from unavailable partners
(1:08:00) – Closing thoughts and resources

Learn more about Dr. Rick Hanson
Books:

• Making Great Relationships

• Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness

Websites:

• rickhanson.com — free resources, videos, and courses

• globalcompassioncoalition.org — initiative he promotes near the end

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