Are you a Peacekeeper or a Peacemaker?

Happily Even After with Life Coach Jen

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Have you ever prided yourself on being the one who "keeps the peace" in your relationships, only to realize later you might be sacrificing your own well-being in the process? That's exactly what happened to me after years of what I thought was noble peacekeeping in my marriage.
In this deeply personal exploration, I unpack the critical difference between peacekeeping and peacemaking—a distinction that transformed my understanding of healthy relationships after betrayal. Peacekeepers avoid conflict at all costs, minimize problems, and often sacrifice their own needs for artificial harmony. Meanwhile, peacemakers have the courage to engage with difficult issues while maintaining compassion and respect.
Through my own journey recovering from betrayal, I discovered that my so-called peacekeeping was actually preventing genuine healing and connection. I share the telltale signs you might be a peacekeeper, including feeling responsible for managing everyone else's emotions, walking on eggshells to avoid triggering others, and suffering in silence rather than addressing problems directly.
Most importantly, I offer practical guidance for shifting from peacekeeping to peacemaking: identifying your triggers, setting healthy boundaries, practicing difficult conversations, and creating safe spaces where vulnerability is welcomed rather than punished. This transformation isn't about becoming confrontational—it's about finding the courage to address issues with love and integrity rather than sweeping them under the rug.
Whether you're healing from betrayal or simply want more authentic connections in your life, understanding this distinction could be the key that unlocks more honest, fulfilling relationships. Listen now to discover how you can honor your truth while still cultivating genuine peace in your relationships.

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Chapters

1. Introduction to Happily Even After (00:00:00)

2. Peacekeepers vs. Peacemakers Defined (00:02:49)

3. Consequences of Peacekeeping in Marriage (00:05:18)

4. Breaking the Peacekeeper Pattern (00:09:36)

5. How to Become a True Peacemaker (00:15:34)

6. Creating Safe Spaces for Hard Conversations (00:23:54)

7. Closing Thoughts on Peacemaking (00:26:59)