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How To Confront Difficult Software Developers About Their Behavior
Manage episode 191608217 series 1756036
Have you ever been on a software project with someone who does great work but is difficult to work with? Here’s some strategies for confronting difficult software developers about their behavior.
Before you even think about having this conversation, go into the conversation detached from the outcome you want. If you go into it thinking “If I don’t get this person’s behavior then I’ll be upset” – the other person will pick up on it.
Here’s 6 tips for this conversation:
- Keep The Conversation Private
- Ensure They Are Well Rested
- Reinforce Their Value
- Listen For Struggles
- Future-Pace The Benefits
- Discuss Their Reservations
Don’t give the person an ultimatum! They will make the change but resent you for it!
Don’t attach rewards to the change. They will expect rewards for future good behavior!
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TechRolepedia, a wiki about the top 25 roles in tech: https://thrivingtechnologist.com/techroles
The Thriving Technologist career guide: https://thrivingtechnologist.com/guide
You can also watch this episode on YouTube.
Related resources:
- "Sonic Drifting" by Ron Gelinas
- “All The Beauty (original ambient version)” by Jani R
- “Ambient Theme No. 1” – Steven O’Brien
Visit me at thrivingtechnologist.com
178 episodes
Manage episode 191608217 series 1756036
Have you ever been on a software project with someone who does great work but is difficult to work with? Here’s some strategies for confronting difficult software developers about their behavior.
Before you even think about having this conversation, go into the conversation detached from the outcome you want. If you go into it thinking “If I don’t get this person’s behavior then I’ll be upset” – the other person will pick up on it.
Here’s 6 tips for this conversation:
- Keep The Conversation Private
- Ensure They Are Well Rested
- Reinforce Their Value
- Listen For Struggles
- Future-Pace The Benefits
- Discuss Their Reservations
Don’t give the person an ultimatum! They will make the change but resent you for it!
Don’t attach rewards to the change. They will expect rewards for future good behavior!
Join my Patreon: https://thrivingtechnologist.com/patreon
Learn about one-on-one career coaching with me: https://thrivingtechnologist.com/coaching
TechRolepedia, a wiki about the top 25 roles in tech: https://thrivingtechnologist.com/techroles
The Thriving Technologist career guide: https://thrivingtechnologist.com/guide
You can also watch this episode on YouTube.
Related resources:
- "Sonic Drifting" by Ron Gelinas
- “All The Beauty (original ambient version)” by Jani R
- “Ambient Theme No. 1” – Steven O’Brien
Visit me at thrivingtechnologist.com
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