The Guilt Trap: Break Free from the Chains

High Heels to Happy Feels

Hey everyone — welcome back to another week of High Heels to Happy Feels! And this week, we’re getting real about something we’ve both been wrestling with: saying NO — and the massive guilt that can come with it.

Natalie opens up about hitting a breaking point at work, finally saying "no" to being overloaded — but then facing an avalanche of guilt the next day. We talk about how deeply conditioned many of us (especially women) are to overcommit, people-please, and attach our worth to being "yes" people. But setting boundaries is self-love, and learning to say no without guilt is key to protecting our energy.

We dive into:

The difference between guilt and shame when setting boundaries

How hustle culture pressures us into constant "yes mode"

Why your "no" doesn't need a long explanation

How to recognize guilt traps — and stop falling into them

Building a "toolbox" of I statements and strategies for low-risk and high-risk nos

Practicing self-compassion when the guilt kicks in (because you know it will!)

This isn’t about being selfish — it’s about choosing yourself, honoring your energy, and giving yourself permission to live in alignment with your soul.
Saying "no" is actually saying YES to yourself. 💛

So if you’ve ever said no and then spent hours (or days) second-guessing yourself, feeling guilty, or replaying the conversation in your head — you’re not alone. And we're working through it right alongside you. Shadow work in real time, anyone?

As always, thank you for being here with us! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join us next week for another honest, soul-filled episode of High Heels to Happy Feels!

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