#70 Letting Go Without Falling Apart — The Courage to Disappoint

Identity-Level Recalibration

What if alignment means disappointing others — but coming home to yourself? This episode explores the quiet courage of letting go, and why freedom requires releasing who you’ve been to become who you are.

You’ve been the steady one. The reliable one. The one others count on.
But lately, holding it all together feels heavier than it used to.

This episode is for the high-capacity human silently asking:
What do I do when what once fit… no longer does?

In today’s conversation, we explore:

• Why growth often requires disappointing others
• The hidden cost of staying too long in misaligned roles
• How performance-based identity entangles our sense of loyalty
• The real reason “letting go” feels so hard — especially for those who lead
• What we can learn from coach Marla Mattenson’s courageous pivot
• A micro recalibration to help you take one step toward freedom

You’ll walk away with language for what you’re feeling, permission to pause, and a renewed understanding of how identity clarity makes every other decision easier.

Today’s Micro Recalibration:
Where are you still saying yes because it’s expected — not because it’s aligned?
Write it down. Identify the fear keeping you there. Take one small step toward integrity.

If you lead a team, a mission, or a household — this matters.
Because misalignment at the top always becomes exhaustion underneath.

Let this episode be your reminder:
You’re not failing. You’re freeing.

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