199. Stop Asking Why: The Radical Power of Owning Your Story with Marsha Vanwynsberghe

INHABIT with Alessia Citro

Struggling to break free from shame, self-doubt, or the weight of your own story? In this episode of INHABIT, host Alessia Citro sits down with Marsha Vanwynsberghe—NLP trainer, bestselling author, speaker, and podcast host—to explore how vulnerability and reframing your narrative can transform even the most challenging experiences into powerful fuel for growth. Listeners will learn how to move from victimhood to empowerment, harness the power of subconscious beliefs, and finally step into their most outspoken, authentic selves.

Marsha shares her journey as a parent navigating teen substance abuse, revealing how sharing her story helped her—and countless others—release paralyzing shame and isolation. The conversation dives into the emotional frequency scale, the science and strategy behind Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energy for sustainable success. Marsha also offers practical advice for aspiring authors and entrepreneurs ready to share their message with the world.

Whether you’re seeking personal healing, greater confidence, or the courage to use your voice, this episode delivers actionable insights and inspiration. Tune in to discover how to own your choices, rewrite your story, and become the most empowered version of yourself.

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TIMESTAMPS:

[01:00] Marsha's journey began with teen substance abuse, leading to isolation and shame.

[03:45] Sharing her story with other parents helped Marsha realize they weren't alone.

[06:50] Alessia and Marsha discuss shame as the lowest, most paralyzing emotion.

[09:05] Vulnerability and reframing experiences as lessons transformed Marsha's pain into purpose.

[12:05] Marsha explains how stopping "why me?" questions was a turning point in her life.

[16:11] Vulnerability is the path to connection, courage, and becoming truly outspoken.

[21:23] Marsha explains NLP and how subconscious beliefs, often formed by age eight, run our lives.

[25:50] Marsha shares how childhood beliefs about strength created a "proving" energy in her life.

[35:21] Releasing subconscious blocks and generational patterns is key to freedom and growth.

[40:54] Balancing masculine and feminine energy is crucial for sustainable business growth and inner safety.

[47:51] Marsha advises aspiring authors to focus on clear intention and self-belief.

[51:17] To become outspoken, visualize what that looks and feels like for you.

RESOURCES MENTIONED

CONNECT WITH MARSHA:

Website: marshavanw.com

Instagram: @marshavanw

Program: OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification

Free Resource: You Are Supported Bundle (Use code: FREEAUDIOBUNDLE)

Marsha's Book: When She Stopped Asking Why

Marsha’s Podcast: Own Your Choices Own Your Life

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KEYWORDS: shame, vulnerability, overcoming shame, NLP, neuro-linguistic programming, subconscious beliefs, personal growth, self-mastery, emotional healing, feminine energy, masculine energy, storytelling, empowerment, breaking generational patterns, mindset shift, trauma recovery, writing a book, entrepreneurship, self-worth, healing journey, parenthood challenges, substance abuse, podcast interview

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