“Handle the emotion first, then talk…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often.

Jason Hobbs LCSW MDiv

#Fitness #Jason Hobbs LCSW MDiv

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A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Handle the emotion first, then talk…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often.

In this episode, I talk about the error a lot of us make in trying to rationalize with an emotion, in other words a physiological state. It is better to soothe and calm first, then talk. That can apply to all sorts of relationships.

This post can be found at https://medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw/handle-the-emotion-first-then-talk-5da284ea785

You can read other Medium posts at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw.

Go here for Jason's recently released book!

--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support

57 episodes

“Handle the emotion first, then talk…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often.

Jason Hobbs LCSW MDiv

published 6 years ago

M4A•Episode home

A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Handle the emotion first, then talk…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often.

This post can be found at https://medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw/handle-the-emotion-first-then-talk-5da284ea785

You can read other Medium posts at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw.

Go here for Jason's recently released book!

--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support

57 episodes

#Fitness #Jason Hobbs LCSW MDiv

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“I won’t wash my hands anymore.” on “opinions”, testing the truth, and maintaining relationships (even when it is hard) 9:57

5 years ago9:57

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A reading from a recent Medium post titled “I won’t wash my hands anymore”: on “opinions”, testing the truth, and maintaining relationships (even when it is hard). In it, Jason writes about a recent Facebook argument, but also how his faith reminds him to not to turn away from others, but to remain in relationship even when it is challenging. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . If you want info about Dena and Jason's upcoming book from Kregel, go here: https://jasonhobbslcsw.com/books/ Preorders are available at Amazon: https://smile.amazon.com/When-Anxiety-Strikes-Managing-Storm/dp/0825446643/ Jason's other, more personal book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God" can be found at this link: https://smile.amazon.com/Unless-Grain-Wheat-Falls-Changing/dp/0578444410/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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Daring to be Silent Together listening to Howard Thurman, watching Watchmen, and listening to each other during a pandemic 8:31

5 years ago8:31

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A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Daring to be Silent Together: listening to Howard Thurman, watching Watchmen, and listening to each other during a pandemic". This episode follows a group that I lead once a month in group spiritual direction, with lots of silence and listening to each other. We have also been rewatching Watchmen at home as I have been reading Howard Thurman's spiritual writings and reflecting on race in this country. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . If you want info about Dena and Jason's upcoming book from Kregel, go here: https://jasonhobbslcsw.com/books/ Jason's other, more personal book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God" can be found at this link: https://smile.amazon.com/Unless-Grain-Wheat-Falls-Changing/dp/0578444410/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“Why are you looking at heaven?”: letting go of the past, stepping wisely into this pandemic future 9:49

5 years ago9:49

9:49

A reading from a recent Medium post titled “'Why are you looking at heaven?': letting go of the past, stepping wisely into this pandemic future". This episode explores the grief associated with the Ascension of Jesus, connecting to our collective grief during pandemic. Then just as the disciples were asked "Why are you looking at heaven?", the question turns to what do we do now. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . If you want info about Dena and Jason's upcoming book from Kregel, go here: https://jasonhobbslcsw.com/books/ Jason's other, more personal book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God" can be found at this link: https://smile.amazon.com/Unless-Grain-Wheat-Falls-Changing/dp/0578444410/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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Wandering in the Pandemic Wilderness: complaining, eating manna, and building golden calves 10:21

5 years ago10:21

10:21

A reading from a recent Medium post titled "Wandering in the Pandemic Wilderness: complaining, eating manna, and building golden calves". This episode fumbles around for a good analogy for our current pandemic reality, from the biblical text, for those who want an intersection between their clinical reality within their life of faith. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . If you want info about Dena and Jason's upcoming book from Kregel, go here: https://jasonhobbslcsw.com/books/ Jason's other, more personal book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God" can be found at this link: https://smile.amazon.com/Unless-Grain-Wheat-Falls-Changing/dp/0578444410/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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"Our hurts return at different ages and stages." Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. 7:37

5 years ago7:37

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A reading from a recent Medium post titled "Our hurts return at different ages and stages." Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. This episode discusses the way that difficult events in our lives seem to come back again and again, but ends on a hopeful note that this is more about healing at different developmental stages. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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Not on the journey alone: on walking and writing and walking and writing 5:35

5 years ago5:35

5:35

A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Not on the journey alone: on walking and writing and walking and writing”. This episode is an update on our recent book contract but also the way in which the process of this book, from inception to present day, has been a journey with many good companions along the way. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“Nothing is ever really lost.” on birthdays, the accumulation of friends on Facebook, community, and Walt Whitman 7:53

6 years ago7:53

7:53

A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Nothing is ever really lost.” on birthdays, the accumulation of friends on Facebook, community, and Walt Whitman. This episode has some follow up reflections from last year when I took my birthday off of Facebook and heard ... "crickets". There is some about the faux-community of Facebook, some reflections on a poem by Walt Whitman, and how our own stories are an accumulation of people and experiences, those "lost" to us and those present. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“Anxiety isn’t good with statistics.” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. 7:36

6 years ago7:36

7:36

A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Anxiety isn’t good with statistics.” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. This episode is mostly around the way that anxiety and stress lead us into all/nothing thinking patterns ... which do not lead to nuanced thinking or multiple options. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“It is like a child putting on an adult’s coat.” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. 7:51

6 years ago7:51

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A reading from a recent Medium post titled “It is like a child putting on an adult’s coat.” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. This episode talks about the way in which children can be given adult roles and the ways in which these can be flattering, but then also damaging for children. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“Anxiety likes a blank canvas…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. 7:27

6 years ago7:27

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A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Anxiety likes a blank canvas…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. This episode reviews the open, future-oriented nature of anxiety, the way in which a "blank canvas" give a lot of room for an anxious brain to paint fearful pictures. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's book, Unless a Grain of Wheat Falls , "a son’s journey through the death of his father and a changing view of God." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“Try treating those thoughts like you would a bully…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. 7:29

6 years ago7:29

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A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Try treating those thoughts like you would a bully…” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. This episode is about how to help children and adolescents (and ourselves) deal with difficult and persistent thoughts. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's recently released book ! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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Going Back to School Mindfully: a quick guide for students, teachers, and parents 8:03

6 years ago8:03

8:03

A reading from a recent Medium post titled Going Back to School Mindfully: a quick guide for students, teachers, and parents. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's book , released Spring 2019. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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"So are you a good kid or a bad kid?" Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. 7:34

6 years ago7:34

7:34

A reading from a recent Medium post titled "So are you a good kid or a bad kid?" Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. This episode is around the subject of parenting, focusing on the behavior instead of locating "badness" or "goodness" in a child's self. This post can be found at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's recently released book ! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“Concrete, specific praise works best.” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. 8:58

6 years ago8:58

8:58

A reading from a recent Medium post titled “Concrete, specific praise works best.” Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often. This episode discusses self-efficacy vs. self-esteem, encouraging praise that is more specific than general. This post can be found at https://medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw/concrete-specific-praise-works-best-4ea3074eaf55 . You can read other Medium posts at medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw . Go here for Jason's recently released book ! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jasonhobbslcsw/support…

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“Don’t call it a pee-pee or a hoo-hah.” Talking with your children about sex. 9:34

6 years ago9:34