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Episode 164 - Three choices I made to bloom in a toxic environment
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After the previous episode, I had to ask myself what did I do to bloom where I was planted.
Here's what came up...
# 1. Invest only in those who appreciate, acknowledge but don't focus on the rest.
While I wanted everyone to value my message, I had to learn getting everyone involved was more detrimental to my health than investing time with those who naturally valued what I brought to the table.
In the beginning, I thought my passion for leadership development was like bacon. Something everyone should be excited to eat. Then, I remember there are plenty of people who dislike it and many others who have zero interest in trying it.
Once I stopped expecting for everyone to join my crusade, things got a lot better.
# 2. Commit to stand for something
I was able to build a following by being consistent with my message and being willing to share it.
Early on, I focused on standing out by doing what everyone else was doing just faster and better. Once I choice to go against the grain, it's when it became easier for me and others to determine whether it was a fit or not.
# 3. Be willing to pay the price
As I said before, as soon as I started sharing my voice, separation began.
Some people felt threaten and started questioning my credibility. Others simply stopped talking to me. Many look for ways to criticize and use workplace politics to stop me. And, only a few, showed active support.
In the end, I had to be willing to deal with the consequences of choosing to chart my own course.
I believe these 3 choices helped me create a sense of autonomy that allowed me to feel in control within and environment that didn't value my passions and talents.
Let's say I was taking the nutrients from one place and blooming in a different one.
I hope this gives you ideas to create your own universe and bloom where you are planted. If you are looking for a resource on the culture, I think [Jon Gordon's book, The Seed, could be useful.
Be well,
~Juan
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