How to provide support to your child/relative/friend if they are in a relationship with a Narcissist

Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast

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Watching someone you care about being subjected to emotional, financial or even physical abuse at the hands of their narcissistic partner/spouse can be heart-breaking and unbearable - particularly if the 'victim' is your child.

It is so much easier to recognise the existence of narcissistic abuse when you are on the outside looking in. But when your loved one is caught in the web of narcissistic abuse they are often the last person to realise what the are being subjected to. Trauma bonding can result in you vehemently defending your abuser, failing to recognise that you are caught in a highly toxic and dangerous relationship. When you are trying to provide support this can create friction between yourself and the victim, causing your relationship to be strained.

If you want to support your loved one and help them extricate themselves from this abusive relationship it is important that you do not allow yourself the become alienated, particularly as the narcissist will be keen to isolate their partner from any support network, ensuring that they are totally dependent on the narcissist. Handle your loved one with care, helping them to take things at their pace and providing them with support and guidance. Help them to make their own decisions and see through the love bombing to recognise that their partner is someone incapable of unconditional love, in fact incapable of love at all.

This podcast will help you provide support without playing into the narcissist's hands and pushing your loved one away as you look on with despair at the toxicity to which they are being subjected. It will help you assess your role and how you can help draw them away from the lure of the narcissist.