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106 When the ‘Good’ Kid Isn’t Fine

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com

Self Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessment

Book a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall

Sometimes the child who seems “fine” — quiet, cooperative, and academically strong — is actually the one silently struggling.

In this deeply personal episode, Andi shares what she recently discovered about her one son's hidden stress responses and executive functioning challenges, despite being the so-called “easy” kid of her two kids.

She walks through the emotional rollercoaster of guilt, the importance of slowing down, and how “doing well” on paper doesn't always mean everything is okay underneath.

Key Takeaways

  • Just because a child is quiet, compliant, or “gifted” doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling emotionally or cognitively.
  • The turtle stress response (shutdown, avoidance, compliance) can hide significant executive functioning challenges.
  • It’s easy to skip foundational skills when we’re anxious to “fix” the problem — even when we know better.
  • Support begins with understanding where your child is truly struggling, not just reacting to behavior.
  • Academic success doesn’t automatically reflect emotional regulation or executive functioning strength.
  • Slowing down and building skills step-by-step is the real shortcut to lasting change.

Episode Highlights

[00:01:00] – What it means when the “good kid” isn’t actually fine

[00:03:00] – The gifted child who won the “Silent but Deadly” award — and what it masked

[00:05:00] – Signs of executive functioning struggles hiding beneath compliance

[00:07:00] – When guilt kicks in: The parenting moment Andi didn’t expect

[00:09:00] – Why compassion and collaboration beats punishment

[00:10:00] – Learning ladders: Meeting kids where they’re actually at

[00:13:00] – Helping kids in school when executive functioning is the issue

[00:15:00] – Real-life changes that helped Andi’s son thrive

[00:17:00] – Reframing school as executive functioning training

[00:20:00] – A focus tool from Peak Mind by Amishi Jha that actually worked

[00:21:00] – Letting go of grades as the only measure of success

[00:23:00] – Why helping your child succeed means seeing what’s really going on

Resources Mentioned

Book: Peak Mind by Dr. Amishi Jha – A science-based guide to improving focus and attention: https://amishi.com/books/peak-mind

Self-Assessment Form – Understand hidden executive functioning and emotional struggles: Click here to access: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessment

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Manage episode 476908146 series 3450867
Content provided by Andi Clark. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Andi Clark or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://ppacc.player.fm/legal.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com

Self Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessment

Book a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall

Sometimes the child who seems “fine” — quiet, cooperative, and academically strong — is actually the one silently struggling.

In this deeply personal episode, Andi shares what she recently discovered about her one son's hidden stress responses and executive functioning challenges, despite being the so-called “easy” kid of her two kids.

She walks through the emotional rollercoaster of guilt, the importance of slowing down, and how “doing well” on paper doesn't always mean everything is okay underneath.

Key Takeaways

  • Just because a child is quiet, compliant, or “gifted” doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling emotionally or cognitively.
  • The turtle stress response (shutdown, avoidance, compliance) can hide significant executive functioning challenges.
  • It’s easy to skip foundational skills when we’re anxious to “fix” the problem — even when we know better.
  • Support begins with understanding where your child is truly struggling, not just reacting to behavior.
  • Academic success doesn’t automatically reflect emotional regulation or executive functioning strength.
  • Slowing down and building skills step-by-step is the real shortcut to lasting change.

Episode Highlights

[00:01:00] – What it means when the “good kid” isn’t actually fine

[00:03:00] – The gifted child who won the “Silent but Deadly” award — and what it masked

[00:05:00] – Signs of executive functioning struggles hiding beneath compliance

[00:07:00] – When guilt kicks in: The parenting moment Andi didn’t expect

[00:09:00] – Why compassion and collaboration beats punishment

[00:10:00] – Learning ladders: Meeting kids where they’re actually at

[00:13:00] – Helping kids in school when executive functioning is the issue

[00:15:00] – Real-life changes that helped Andi’s son thrive

[00:17:00] – Reframing school as executive functioning training

[00:20:00] – A focus tool from Peak Mind by Amishi Jha that actually worked

[00:21:00] – Letting go of grades as the only measure of success

[00:23:00] – Why helping your child succeed means seeing what’s really going on

Resources Mentioned

Book: Peak Mind by Dr. Amishi Jha – A science-based guide to improving focus and attention: https://amishi.com/books/peak-mind

Self-Assessment Form – Understand hidden executive functioning and emotional struggles: Click here to access: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessment

  continue reading

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