Episode 2: Breaking Chains - Understanding and Healing Generational Patterns

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In this raw and honest conversation, father and daughter dive deep into their family history, exploring how certain behaviors, beliefs, and emotional patterns have been passed down through generations. Together, they discuss their personal experiences, challenges, and the active steps they're taking to create positive change for future generations.

Key Topics We'll Cover:

Cultural expectations vs. personal growth
- Communication styles across generations
- Breaking the cycle of silence
Healing practices
- Therapy and mental health stigma
- Building new family traditions
Parent-child dynamics
- Evolution of disciplining methods
- Expressing emotions healthily

Submit your questions to our instagram or facebook page: La Mesa Con Papi

Support the show

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9 episodes

Episode 2: Breaking Chains - Understanding and Healing Generational Patterns

La Mesa con Papi

published about a year ago

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Key Topics We'll Cover:

Cultural expectations vs. personal growth
- Communication styles across generations
- Breaking the cycle of silence
Healing practices
- Therapy and mental health stigma
- Building new family traditions
Parent-child dynamics
- Evolution of disciplining methods
- Expressing emotions healthily

Submit your questions to our instagram or facebook page: La Mesa Con Papi

Support the show

instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar

tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff

Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!

9 episodes

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Episode 9: “Amor o Ansiedad: When Love Feels Like Worry” Untangling Generational Love, Fear, and Control 1:28:49

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Send us a text 🎧 Episode Description: Sometimes love sounds like “¿Ya comiste?” Sometimes it sounds like “No salgas tarde.” And sometimes… it sounds like silence, worry, or control. In this episode, we unpack how love and anxiety often get tangled in our families — especially in Latino households where protection is seen as devotion. Together, we explore how fear can show up in the name of love, how overprotectiveness shaped our sense of self, and how we’re learning to love each other in ways that feel less heavy and more free. This is a conversation about boundaries, trust, and rewriting the emotional language of our families — without losing our roots. 🪑 Topics to Cover: 💔 The Emotional Weight of Love in Our Culture When “cuidarte” becomes controlling How love was shown through fear, not always freedom The emotional labor of being “the strong one” in the family 🧠 Anxiety as Inheritance How generational trauma created a culture of vigilance The difference between love and codependency Growing up with emotional hyperawareness 🧒🏽 Parenting Through Protection vs. Empowerment Raising emotionally secure kids without projecting our fear Teaching independence without guilt How to hold space instead of control ❤️‍🩹 Healing Our Love Language Loving each other with less fear and more trust Learning to say “I love you” without trying to “fix” everything Rewriting emotional patterns without dishonoring where we came from Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Episode 8: Calladita No Me Vía Más Bonita: Finding Our Voice in a Culture of Silence 57:26

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Send us a text 🎧 Episode Description: We were told to be quiet—to not talk back, to not question, to not share our feelings. But silence isn’t always golden. In this powerful episode, we talk about the ways silence shaped our family, our emotional world, and our self-worth. From unspoken pain to unexpressed dreams, we explore how breaking the silence—gently, bravely—can be a radical act of healing. This is an episode about learning to use our voice, and giving our children permission to do the same. 🪑 Topics to Cover: The Culture of Silence “Calladita te ves más bonita” and how that shaped girls differently The cost of being “respectful” at the expense of honesty How silence protected the family image, but wounded the individual Unspoken Things in Our Home Topics we weren’t allowed to talk about (mental health, trauma, mistakes, needs) How we communicated without words—and what got lost in translation What silence taught us (intentionally or not) Breaking the Silence with Compassion How to start hard conversations without burning bridges What breaking the silence has healed in our family When silence is protection—and when it’s fear Raising Children to Speak Up Teaching our kids to use their voice with respect and confidence How we respond when our children challenge or question us Giving kids language for their emotions we never had Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Episode 7: Límites con Amor: The Boundaries Our Parents Didn't Have (But We Need) 49:48

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Send us a text Episode Description: Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re bridges to healthier relationships. In this raw and reflective episode, we open up about the boundaries we’re learning to set as adults, the ones our parents never had the language or freedom to create, and what it looks like to raise children with both structure and softness. We talk about guilt, culture, parenting, and the tension between honoring family and protecting our peace. Whether you’re a parent, a child, or somewhere in between — this one’s for you. Topics to Cover: The Boundary Gap How boundaries were seen (or not seen) in our childhood homes The difference between obedience and respect “¿Y qué va a decir la gente?” culture and people-pleasing habits Confusing closeness with no privacy Parenting with Boundaries Setting emotional boundaries with kids without pushing them away Teaching kids to say no—and honoring it How boundaries actually build trust, not distance Boundaries with Parents (Yes, Even as Adults) How to lovingly say “I’m not okay with that” When guilt shows up, and how we respond to it Real talk: when “honor your parents” becomes emotional self-abandonment Generational Healing Through Boundaries The boundaries we’re grateful for now “You taught me to survive—but now I want to thrive.” What does boundary-setting look like when done with love, not resentment? Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Episode 6: We All Come From Something: Healing Family Wounds & Finding Your Voice 1:04:47

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Send us a text Episode Description: Whether your family was close-knit, distant, complicated, or chaotic—we all come from something. In this episode, we open the mic not just to our family’s truths, but to everyone who’s ever wrestled with identity, generational pain, and what it means to find your voice in a family that didn’t always hear you. With real stories, vulnerable reflection, and a few listener-submitted truths, we explore what happens when you finally stop pretending and start healing. This is for anyone trying to turn inherited pain into personal power—and maybe even love the people who couldn’t love you perfectly. Topics to Cover: The Myth of the “Perfect Family” Why pretending everything’s fine creates emotional distance The pressure to perform roles (the strong one, the good one, the quiet one) When Family Doesn’t “Get You” Identity clashes: mental health, sexuality, religion, ambition, etc. The loneliness of growing up feeling unseen Reclaiming Your Voice What it takes to speak up for yourself in family systems What healing sounds like (sometimes messy, sometimes silent, sometimes loud) Love with Boundaries How to stay connected without losing yourself Setting boundaries with compassion, not punishment What We’re Still Learning Where we (as a family) are still growing How others can start their healing journey—even if the family doesn’t come with them Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Episode 5: Legacy in Real Time: What Are We Really Passing Down? 1:22:06

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Send us a text Episode Description: What are we leaving behind every day—in our words, habits, beliefs, and silences? In this reflective episode, we unpack the concept of legacy beyond material things: the emotional, spiritual, and relational imprints we carry and pass on. From family patterns and cultural messages to intentional parenting and personal growth, this conversation explores how we shape the future through the choices we make today. This is a story of both inheritance and reinvention. Topics to Cover: Unpacking Legacy Beyond Wealth The emotional and relational “inheritance” we don’t always talk about The subtle ways we repeat or resist our upbringing Breaking Generational Cycles What cycles have been broken (and which are still in progress)? Naming what healing has looked like in your family Intentional Parenting & Re-parenting Ourselves How my dad thinks about parenting now vs then How I as a daughter have had to “raise myself” emotionally in some ways Culture, Community & Identity How race, gender, history, or faith shape what’s passed down The pressures or freedoms of being “firsts” in any way (e.g., first to go to therapy, college, set boundaries) Living Legacy in the Present Moment What kind of emotional world are we building together? How being intentional today rewrites tomorrow’s story Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Episode 4: Breaking the Silence: What We Never Said (Until Now) 1:30:39

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Send us a text Episode Description: In this raw and revealing episode, we open up about the things that went unsaid for too long—questions we never asked, feelings we never shared, and truths we were afraid to face. Through courageous honesty and mutual curiosity, we explore how silence shapes relationships, how vulnerability rewrites the script, and how saying the hard stuff can bring us closer. This isn’t just about the father-daughter connection—it’s about learning to speak, listen, and love more deeply in every relationship. Topics to Cover: The Cost of Silence What happens when emotions or stories stay buried? How unspoken expectations or fears impacted our relationship Learning to Communicate Across Generations Different communication styles (stoic vs expressive, guarded vs open) When the shift toward honesty began between you Apologies, Forgiveness, and Emotional Repair What each of you wished the other had said earlier Learning to forgive—yourself and each other Creating Safe Spaces in a Loud World How to open the door for honest conversations at home Building trust over time vs expecting it instantly The Power of Saying “I love you,” “I was wrong,” or “I didn’t know” Words that heal across decades Moments where one small sentence changed everything Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Episode 3: Bridges, Not Walls: Navigating Love, Change, and Connection Together 1:13:24

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Send us a text Episode Description: In this heartfelt and honest episode, we explore how love and healing can show up across generations—from navigating relationships to raising children, responding to the world’s chaos, and learning how to show up for each other with presence and grace. Through stories, reflections, and candid conversation, this father-daughter duo dives into how they’ve grown through adversity, re-learned connection, and continue to build bridges in their relationship while healing their own emotional landscapes. Whether you're a parent, child, or someone working to heal and reconnect, this episode offers laughter, vulnerability, and wisdom for the journey. Topics to Cover: Healing Through Generations How trauma, love, and resilience get passed down (or interrupted) Personal moments of conflict and repair between father and daughter Parenting with Presence What the father learned from parenting then vs. now What the daughter wished parents would understand about kids today Love and Relationships in Different Eras How dating, commitment, and emotional availability have changed Misunderstandings and revelations between generations Current Events & Emotional Resilience How the chaos of today’s world affects the family dynamic Processing news, war, injustice, or social change through conversations at home Bonding Rituals and Emotional Check-ins Simple ways to keep connection strong (even through silence or distance) Shared memories that built trust or brought clarity Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Episode 2: Breaking Chains - Understanding and Healing Generational Patterns 1:21:06

8 weeks ago1:21:06

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Send us a text In this raw and honest conversation, father and daughter dive deep into their family history, exploring how certain behaviors, beliefs, and emotional patterns have been passed down through generations. Together, they discuss their personal experiences, challenges, and the active steps they're taking to create positive change for future generations. Key Topics We'll Cover: Cultural expectations vs. personal growth Communication styles across generations Breaking the cycle of silence Healing practices Therapy and mental health stigma Building new family traditions Parent-child dynamics Evolution of disciplining methods Expressing emotions healthily Submit your questions to our instagram or facebook page: La Mesa Con Papi Support the show Follow us on instagram and facebook: La Mesa Con Papi instagram: Stephanie.Nemeroff or Beto Huizar tiktok: Stephanie.Nemeroff Coming soon to YouTube: Bienvenidos a La Mesa!…

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Unfiltered Hearts: A Father-Daughter Journey 1:05:12

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