Stop Asking for Romance - Do This Instead

Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Does your partner feel more like a roommate than a lover lately? You’re definitely not alone—and you’re not wrong for wanting more.

In this Language of Love Session, I help Shauna, who’s been with her partner for three years. She misses the early days—the surprise love notes, spontaneous date nights, the simple act of hand-holding. Now? It feels like they’re stuck in a routine, more like roommates navigating a to-do list than lovers sharing a life. She’s tried dropping hints, even having honest conversations, but nothing seems to shift. Her question: How do I ask for more romance without making him feel like he’s failing?

Together, we dig into why passion so often fades in long-term relationships—and how to revive that spark with intention, not pressure.

You’ll learn:

• Why the “infatuation phase” ends—and what comes next in a healthy love story

• The sex-romance stalemate: what it is and how it silently sabotages connection

• How to give your partner a roadmap to romance (without it feeling like a chore)

• Why men and women often feel loved in very different ways—and how to bridge the gap

• How emotional and physical intimacy feed each other in a lasting relationship

• What role sexual availability plays in inspiring affection—and how to talk about it

• The subtle ways your own behavior might be discouraging romance (and how to shift it)

• When to seek couples therapy—and why it’s not just for marriages in crisis

Plus, I share a simple, powerful communication strategy that invites your partner into deeper connection—without shame, blame, or ultimatums.

If you feel stuck in a routine that no longer feels like love, this episode is your invitation to begin again.

Have a question about your own love life? Email me at [email protected] to be featured in a future episode—or even join me live on the show.

Looking for tools to deepen your connection and reignite your passion? Head over to my website for expert-backed resources designed to help you heal, grow, and thrive in your relationships. Explore my 7 Days to Better Sex program and take my free quiz to discover what you truly want in love.

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