The Validation Trap: Where Do You Look to Determine Your Value?

Lead In 30 Podcast

Some of you just want to be liked. Others of you are obsessed with the scoreboard. The crowd and the metrics shouldn't be your ultimate gauges of success or value. In this episode Lone Rock Leadership Cofounder Russ Hill explores where leaders seek validation and how this fundamental choice defines leadership effectiveness, sustainability, and ability to scale.
• First Leaders seek validation from the crowd, prioritizing harmony and being liked
• This approach creates pleasant environments but often fails to drive results
• Second Leaders seek validation from scoreboard metrics, authority, and status symbols
• While driving short-term results, this leadership style struggles with innovation and retention
• The most effective leaders seek validation first internally, staying consistent with their principles
• Trusted advisors who provide honest feedback form a second critical validation source
• External validation—whether from crowds or scoreboards—is ultimately unreliable
• Some people will unfairly judge you regardless of your actions or intentions
• If you don't have critics, you're likely not making enough impact
• Understanding your validation source requires honest self-assessment
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The Lead In 30 Podcast with Russ Hill is for leaders of teams who want to grow and accelerate their results. In each episode, Russ Hill shares what he's learned consulting executives. Subscribe to get two new episodes every week. To connect with Russ message him on LinkedIn!

Chapters

1. If You Lead to Be Liked (00:00:00)

2. Three Leadership Styles Explained (00:05:25)

3. Where Leaders Seek Validation (00:10:42)

4. The Superior Source of Validation (00:18:05)

5. Finding Your Internal Compass (00:22:07)