Queer Time: Why LGBTQ+ Lives Don’t Follow Society’s Timeline

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We’re diving into the concept of queer time — how LGBTQ+ folks often live outside traditional timelines. From transitioning and relationships to work and family, we talk non-linear journeys, pop culture icons, and why you’re not behind — you’re just on your own path.

Hey Let's Be Perfectly Queer Fam! – Archie and Katie here! This week, we’re diving headfirst into the concept of queer time — a term that might sound academic, but trust us, it’s something we’ve all felt.

Ever looked around and thought, “Why does everyone else seem further ahead in life?” Whether it’s transitioning later in life, coming out after 30, or skipping traditional milestones like marriage and kids, queer folks often walk a different path. And that’s not just okay — it’s powerful.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why queer timelines don’t follow society’s rules
• Transitioning and how it reshapes your life milestones
• Missing or delaying things like sex ed, first relationships, or starting a family
• What feminism has to do with all this
• The emotional impact of feeling “behind”
• And how to embrace your own unique, non-linear timeline

We also get a little geeky (Doctor Who fans, we see you 👀), share pop culture moments from Elliot Page to Kristen Stewart, and shout out icons like Jack Halberstam, Cher, Ian McKellen and more who’ve lived their queer truth on their own terms.

Whether you’re just starting to explore your identity or you’ve been out for decades, this episode is a reminder: you’re not late — you’re on queer time.

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We love hearing from you — share your own #QueerTime story with us on socials!

Until next time we hope that we have been Perfectly queer,

Archie & Katie 🌈

Information that we found extremely helpful:

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Hi6j2UXEZM
• https://www.oxfordstudent.com/2021/07/02/the-comfort-of-queer-time-theory/#google_vignette https://daily.jstor.org/queer-time-the-alternative-to-adulting/
• https://victoryinstitute.org/beyond-the-clock-embracing-queer-time-on-capitol-hill-melanie-dawson/
• https://victoryinstitute.org/beyond-the-clock-embracing-queer-time-on-capitol-hill-melanie-dawson/
• https://radiantbutch.medium.com/heterotemporality-and-queer-time-b91cce4f538e
• https://www.perlego.com/knowledge/study-guides/what-is-queer-temporality/
• https://lambdaliteraryreview.org/2020/07/queer-time/
• https://sfonline.barnard.edu/ps/printjha.htm

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Chapters

1. Queer Time: Why LGBTQ+ Lives Don’t Follow Society’s Timeline (00:00:00)

2. [Ad] Rooted Resilience (00:17:06)

3. (Cont.) Queer Time: Why LGBTQ+ Lives Don’t Follow Society’s Timeline (00:17:50)