Responding vs Reacting

Living Inspired with Autism

In this episode, we dive into the powerful difference between reacting and responding as a parent, especially when it comes to those challenging, emotional moments with your autistic child.

To help you navigate these situations with more confidence and compassion, I’ll walk you through a simple three-question filter you can use when emotions run high:

1. What is my kiddo communicating through this behavior?
   Remember — behavior is communication. Are they overwhelmed? Seeking connection or control? Look beneath the surface to understand what’s really going on.
2. What does my kiddo need from me right now?
   Sometimes they need boundaries. Other times, they need comfort, help processing big emotions, or simply a safe presence. Your response should be based on their true needs, not just stopping the behavior.
3. What would support our relationship in this moment?
   Keeping your long-term goal in mind — a secure, trusting connection — helps guide your response beyond just behavior management.

Learning to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting automatically is one of the most powerful shifts we can make as parents. Let’s explore how together.

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