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“Why You Give Everything and Still Don’t Feel Loved: Anxiously Attached
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I SEE YOU.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving everything in a relationship and still feeling like it’s not enough… this episode is for you.
Anxious attachment isn’t just about “needing too much.” It’s about core wounds that were formed long before your first heartbreak — and today, we’re going straight to the heart of it.
In this episode, I unpack the emotional and psychological experience of anxious attachment in a way you may have never heard before. We’ll go deep into three rarely-discussed core wounds:
🌙 The fear that if you’re not chosen, you disappear.
🕯️ The belief that your worth depends on how others feel about you.
🫀 And the panic that closeness won’t last — so you have to hold on tighter, even when it hurts.
I’ll also walk you through how these wounds shape who you become in relationships: the fixer, the self-silencer, the chameleon, and the one who overfunctions just to be seen.
If you’ve ever spiraled after a text, lost yourself in someone else’s world, or felt like love is something you have to earn — I want you to know: I see you. And this episode is your mirror.
You’ll leave with more than just awareness. I’ll guide you through a healing shift called secure self-attunement — a practice to begin coming back home to yourself, regulating your reactions, and choosing love from a place of worth instead of fear.
This episode is tender, honest, and real — and it might just change the way you understand your heart.
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You don’t have to chase love to be worthy of it.
You are allowed to stay fully you — and still be deeply held! Its about time.
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Chapters
1. Understanding Anxious Attachment (00:00:00)
2. The Superpowers of Anxious Attachment (00:02:54)
3. Navigating Relationships with Anxious Attachment (00:05:47)
4. The Impact of Childhood on Attachment Styles (00:09:04)
5. The Journey to Self-Love and Healing (00:12:02)
6. The Complexity of Connection and Disconnection (00:14:54)
7. Finding Peace in Relationships (00:17:46)
8. The Role of Reassurance in Anxious Attachment (00:21:02)
9. The Struggle for Validation and Acceptance (00:23:58)
10. Embracing Your True Self (00:26:46)
11. The Burden of Self-Blame in Relationships (00:34:52)
12. The Need for Deeper Connection (00:37:44)
13. The Struggle with Self-Identity (00:40:28)
14. Recognizing Your Worth (00:43:50)
15. The Importance of Self-Love (00:47:38)
16. Understanding Relationship Dynamics (00:51:00)
17. The Power of Vulnerability (00:54:41)
18. Closing Reflections and Self-Validation (01:07:33)
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