#222: The Real Reason You Can’t Change Your Relationship Patterns (And How to Fix It)

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Are you tired of knowing what to do, but still finding yourself stuck in old patterns? You’re not alone.

If you’ve ever felt the frustration of knowing exactly what could help your relationship but still falling back into old habits, this episode is for you. We’re diving into a common struggle: why knowing what to do isn’t the same as being able to actually do it. In this episode of Love Shack Live, we’ll explore the gap between knowledge and action, and why real change comes not just from learning new things, but from practicing and integrating the skills that love requires.

Join me, Staci Bartley, along with my co-hosts, Tom and Brooke, as we break down the emotional hurdles, the practice required, and why love itself can be the best teacher we have.

We’ll answer the tough questions:

• Why is it so hard to do what I know is right?
• What’s missing in all the relationship advice out there?
• How do I actually put these lessons into practice?

If you’re ready to move beyond just “knowing better” and start doing better, this episode will show you how. Don’t miss out, let’s get into the real work of love.

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Chapters

1. #222: The Real Reason You Can’t Change Your Relationship Patterns (And How to Fix It) (00:00:00)

2. The Importance of Practice and Real-Time Engagement (00:01:29)

3. Embracing the Messiness of Relationships (00:03:02)

4. The Gap Between Knowledge and Implementation (00:04:24)

5. The Role of Community and Support (00:07:32)

6. Emotional Regulation: The Foundation of Effective Communication (00:13:49)

7. Love as the Ultimate Teacher (00:20:09)

8. The Path to Healing and Transformation (00:26:48)

9. Embracing Transformation (00:27:54)

10. Admitting Past Mistakes (00:28:14)

11. Creating a Safe Emotional Environment (00:29:12)

12. Self-Reflection and Self-Talk (00:31:01)

13. Understanding and Practicing New Behaviors (00:32:19)

14. The Importance of Community and Practice (00:34:16)

15. The Role of Relationships in Personal Growth (00:36:23)

16. Investing in Relationship Skills (00:40:44)

17. Practical Tips for Emotional Management (00:46:09)

18. Conclusion and Resources (00:49:45)