110. Attachment Styles ~ with yourself!

Are your relationships leaving you feeling like a turtle—or a honey badger?
If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your instincts in love, friendships, or even with your kids, this episode is for you. We’re exploring how attachment styles don’t just show up in your relationships with others—but in your relationship with yourself. And learning to feel secure with you can change everything.

In this heartfelt and insightful conversation, I’m joined by Amanda Fuenzalida, an attachment therapist and coach I met during our Panama retreat. She brings a playful but powerful perspective to understanding emotional patterns through “animal-style” attachment metaphors that make the science click. You’ll come away with a deeper sense of why you might respond the way you do—and how to start building true inner safety.

In this episode:

Why your attachment style isn’t fixed—and how it changes in midlife
What it means to have an attachment style with yourself
The animal metaphors that help you spot your emotional patterns (koala, turtle, honey badger, dragon!)
How childhood messaging shaped your ability to trust your gut
Why self-trust is key in navigating dating, divorce, and relationships in midlife
How to spot old wounds when they’re triggered in current relationships
First steps to healing: learning to hear and honor your own voice

Resources Mentioned:

Website: https://www.attachmentlabs.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentlabs

Connect with me, Dr. Sara Poldmae:

Website: https://risingwomanproject.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsarapoldmae

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