317: What Do You Say When Someone Says, “I Quit. I’m Done.”?

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When someone you love is in a mental health crisis, what do you say? How do you show up without panicking or trying to fix it all?

In this episode, Corrine and Neil talk through one of the most tender and difficult questions they’ve ever received: “What do you say to someone who says they’re done?”—a phrase that often signals deep emotional pain or even suicidal thoughts.

Drawing from principles of recovery, their own personal experiences, and their faith in Jesus Christ, Corrine and Neil explore how to truly support someone who feels like they’ve reached their breaking point. They offer practical tools—like the ACT method (Ask, Care, Tell)—and compassionate reminders that presence matters far more than having the perfect words.

They discuss what emotional distress really feels like, how to sit with someone in that darkness without trying to rush them out of it, and why sometimes, saying “just breathe” is more powerful than trying to fix anything. You’ll also hear a thoughtful conversation on the difference between helping someone and trying to control the outcome, and how to lean into faith when everything feels out of your hands.

Whether you’re trying to support someone dealing with suicidal ideation or you’re seeking peace in your own struggle, this conversation is a gentle and faith-filled place to begin.

Supporting Resources:

• How to Help Someone in Crisis - https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/suicide-how-to-help/how-to-help-someone-in-crisis?lang=eng
• Suicide Prevention and Ministering - https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/get-help/suicide?lang=eng
• Give Us This Day Our Daily Bread by Elder D. Todd Christofferson - https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/broadcasts/article/ces-devotionals/2011/01/give-us-this-day-our-daily-bread?lang=eng

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