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If Your Teen’s Behavior Feels Like A Personal Attack - Listen To This

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That sting you feel when your preteen rolls their eyes or slams the door—it’s not just in your head. Your brain sees that moment as a real threat. Not because you’re overreacting, but because it’s wired to protect the connection between you and your child.

A long time ago, if a child pulled away or got separated from a parent, it was dangerous. And even though things are different now, your brain still responds the same way. That’s why your heart races. Your chest tightens. You feel hot or shaky. It’s your body’s way of saying, “Something’s not right.”

So when your child shuts you out with one-word answers or acts like they don’t care, it makes sense that staying calm feels hard.

And if you were the one who always kept the peace growing up, this kind of rejection can bring up a lot—like maybe you’re doing something wrong or failing somehow.

But you’re not broken. And you’re not too sensitive. Your reaction comes from how deeply you care.

You can hold limits with love. You can honor your feelings without letting them take over. You don’t have to fix your child to feel more steady inside. That calm, grounded version of you—it’s already there. Coaching helps you make space for her to show up, even when things are messy.

If you want to respond with more calm—even when your child is pulling away—visit masteryourownwellbeing.com/coaching.

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Chapters

1. Welcome to Motherhood from the Brain (00:00:00)

2. Workshop Announcement: Stop Snapping Without Willpower (00:00:49)

3. Why Your Child's Distance Feels Threatening (00:02:57)

4. The Biology of Mother-Child Connection (00:07:19)

5. How Coaching Creates Space for Your Growth (00:10:21)

6. Invitation to Transform Your Motherhood Journey (00:16:22)

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