Your Future Self: Creating the Mother You Want to Be

Motherhood & The Brain

Motherhood transforms not just our lives, but our entire sense of self. Yet many of us find ourselves caught in patterns we desperately want to break, the yelling, the frustration, the guilt cycle that leaves us feeling like we're failing our children and ourselves.

What if the calm, intentional mother you aspire to be isn't someone you need to wait for, but someone you can begin embodying right now?
The journey toward becoming that future version of yourself isn't about fake smiles or gritted teeth while chaos swirls around you.

That's just performance, and it's exhausting. True transformation happens when you recognize that your brain is running on programming from your childhood, societal expectations, and media portrayals of what "good mothers" do.

This programming creates automatic thoughts like "I'm being disrespected" or "I'm failing them" when your child slams a door or ignores your question—thoughts that trigger emotions leading directly to reactions you later regret.
Your brain responds to repetition and evidence. Every time you react by yelling, you strengthen that neural pathway until you believe, "I'm just a yeller."

But when you pause, even briefly, and choose to respond as your future self would, your brain takes notice. Through the Inner Coaching Method, you learn to catch those automatic thoughts, ask what the mother you aspire to be would do, and respond from that place, not through willpower, but through practice and patience.
This shift doesn't happen when circumstances improve, it happens right in the midst of eye rolls, messy rooms, and forgotten chores. It begins when you reverse engineer who you want to become, walking backward from that vision to guide today's choices.

The mother you dream of being already exists within you. You simply need to practice bringing her forward, one intentional moment at a time.
Ready to break free from reactivity and step into intentional motherhood? Join me as we explore how understanding your brain can transform your parenting journey from one of frustration to one of connection, calm, and confidence.

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Chapters

1. Welcome to Motherhood and the Brain (00:00:00)

2. What This Podcast Is Really About (00:03:23)

3. Beyond Faking It: Creating Your Future Self (00:05:44)

4. Your Brain Responds to Repetition (00:11:04)

5. The Inner Coaching Method Explained (00:16:18)

6. Reverse Engineering Your Future Self (00:22:17)

7. Closing Thoughts: She's Already Within You (00:28:34)