How Our Sensory Differences Are Impacting Our Relationship and the Road to Making Things Better-Lori Crowley

Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

Lori Crowley, M.A., LMFT, LPCC is a therapist and coach who works with neurodivergent families and couples. During this episode she shares some of her lived experiences and her expertise as well as the importance of taking a somatic approach to psychotherapy. We discuss so many important issues for neurodiverse couples to understand and addresss including:

• ​How to integrate sensory differences.
• ​Dealing with sensory overwhelm.
• ​Neurons that fire together wire together.
• ​Sensory resourcing.
• ​Understanding all of our senses including vestibular, neuroception, and interoception.
• ​Understanding being sensory seeking, sensory avoidant, neutral or a combination.
• ​Brain story on Neuroclastic website
• ​Logicalizing or invalidating emotions.
• ​“Toward” energy and “Away” Energy.
• ​Rewiring your neural pathways.
• ​Double empathy problem.
• ​Changing the frame in which we are holding our experiences.
• ​Opposites can “complete” each other.
• ​Is it a “can’t” or a “won’t”?
• ​Overwhelm, lack of agency/choice and sense of imminent demise can lead to trauma.
• ​How do I repair? 1) Create safety in the environment: Person you are interacting with needs to be seen. Look at them through a sensory lens: 2) They need to be heard. Hold what comes at you; 3) Teding-people want to feel respected. This can help the other person’s energy relax. Remember not to say “but”, however you can say “and”.
• ​Unpacking some of the sensory issues in play that led to Mona moving forward on a divorce.
• ​Understanding if it’s overwhelm or lack of care?
• ​Understand that repair may not be possible, however forgiveness can be very healing.

You can contact Lori for therapy here or for coaching here.

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