Three Things That Happy Neurodiverse Couples Do-Eva A. Mendes

Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

During this episode with therapist and coach Eva A. Mendes she shares some of the important information neurodiverse couples shared with her for her newest book titled: “Armchair Conversations on Love and Autism: Secrets of Happy Neurodiverse Couples”.

Some of the important things that top performing neurodiverse couples do:

1. Accept the diagnosis and talk openly about each partner’s neurotypes. Work together to understand the root cause of their challenges as a couple.
2. Have a beginners mindset as an individual and a couple.
3. Trust each other and be able to be influenced by their partner.

Some of the other topics discussed include:

• The challenge with taking things personally and not understanding your partner’s love.
• Understanding different ways of communication with your partner and others.
• The importance of building on your strengths.
• Understanding what you each may need to do differently to connect.
• Staying humble and curious with your partner.
• Going “beyond the midline”for both partners.
• The importance of working with a professional who has experience working with ND couples.
• Both partners working on the relationship to the best of their ability.
• Addressing different issues that come up over the lifespan.
• Focusing on “solvable” not “perpetual” problems.
• Working on empathy for each other.
• Understanding your partner in the greater context of their life.
• Acknowledging that you can’t get everything from one person. It takes a village!
• Sometimes couples don’t have enough bandwidth for each other anymore.
• We are all here to grow and have an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and our partners.

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