The Reluctant Heart

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What happens when the dating pool shrinks but your standards don't? In this refreshingly candid conversation, Kelli welcomes special guest co-host Robert "Bigfoot Bob" Dominguez for an unfiltered look at dating in later life and the courage it takes to stay true to yourself while navigating romantic possibilities.
Robert shares his personal journey of remaining deliberately single while fielding well-intentioned matchmaking attempts from friends and family. He articulates something many of us feel but rarely admit: the desire to experience that unmistakable "bolt of lightning" connection rather than settling for comfortable companionship. His story about backing out of a date with his fourth-grade crush reveals the complexity of timing, chemistry, and knowing your own heart.
The conversation weaves through dating app hesitations, relationship red flags (speaking negatively about family members), and green flags (consideration for others) that signal compatibility. Robert's perspective has been profoundly shaped by his health challenges, giving him a unique appreciation for life's simple pleasures – from walking on gravel to taking showers independently – while making him thoughtfully selective about who he might share his life with.
What emerges is a powerful narrative about contentment, patience, and the underrated value of waiting for the right connection rather than forcing relationships that don't feel aligned. Robert's loyalty, self-awareness, and willingness to admit when he's wrong highlight qualities that make for lasting partnerships whenever the timing is right.
Whether you're actively dating, taking a break, or happily coupled, this episode offers wisdom about honoring your instincts and finding fulfillment regardless of relationship status. The question isn't just whether you've been together for decades – it's whether you still like each other after all that time.
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Chapters

1. Introduction to dating when older (00:00:00)

2. Bigfoot and dating challenges (00:05:22)

3. The almost date and lightning bolt feelings (00:14:48)

4. Red flags and green flags in dating (00:25:28)

5. Loyalty and relationship challenges (00:30:20)

6. Finding contentment and life appreciation (00:40:01)