#068 – Melissa Nanavati – The Psychology Behind Peak Performance Love

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Melissa Nanavati reveals the blueprint for Peak Performance Love. She shares how she transformed anxious attachment into self-trust, built a rock-solid relationship through her husband’s Antarctica expedition, and turned personal healing into professional mastery. We unpack her intensive meditation journey, the neuroscience of forgiveness, the duality of ambition and intimacy, and the power of daily check-ins, curiosity, and play. This is a deep dive into how high performers can build relationships that strengthen—not sideline—their mission.

Timestamps:
00:00 Having Melissa's Husband On The Show
04:27 Dealing With Personal Instability In The Past
05:59 Needing A New Relationship Framework
07:44 A Skewed High Performer Lens For Relationships
10:35 Impact Of 40 Years of Zen Meditation Retreat
15:55 Women Asking Men Out
17:25 My Hesitancy With High Performance Language
22:02 Setting Up Dating Guidelines
25:59 Shifting From Personal Experience To Work
32:00 Navigating Cracks In Relationships
36:00 Highest Revenue Year After Getting Into A Relationship
40:28 Competing With Your Partner
42:49 Nobody Else Doing This Work
46:19 Relationship With Partner Developing Relationship With Self
50:19 Connect With Melissa Nanavati

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Chapters

1. Having Melissa's Husband On The Show (00:00:00)

2. Dealing With Personal Instability In The Past (00:04:27)

3. Needing A New Relationship Framework (00:05:59)

4. A Skewed High Performer Lens For Relationships (00:07:44)

5. Impact Of 40 Years of Zen Meditation Retreat (00:10:35)

6. Women Asking Men Out (00:15:55)

7. My Hesitancy With High Performance Language (00:17:25)

8. Setting Up Dating Guidelines (00:22:02)

9. Shifting From Personal Experience To Work (00:25:59)

10. Navigating Cracks In Relationships (00:32:00)

11. Highest Revenue Year After Getting Into A Relationship (00:36:00)

12. Competing With Your Partner (00:40:28)

13. Nobody Else Doing This Work (00:42:49)

14. Relationship With Partner Developing Relationship With Self (00:46:19)

15. Connect With Melissa Nanavati (00:50:19)