#89- Episode 89 Unseen, Unspoken, Unwell - Always On, The Pressure to Perform and the Fear to Pause Part 4

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For so many of us, there's this constant push to perform. You can be doing all the things—leading, achieving, producing—and still feel like it’s never enough. Dr. Phyllis knows that tension well. There was a season where she didn’t just do the work… she became the work.

The roles, the pressure, the nonstop motion—it all got tangled up in her identity. Slowing down felt dangerous. Like if she paused, everything would fall apart… including her.

But what she learned is this: constant motion doesn’t protect your peace. It postpones your healing. And healing requires stillness.

In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares the 3 mindset shifts that helped her break free from performance mode:

1. Pausing won’t make you fall behind. Rest isn’t a reward—it’s a reset. Slowing down is how you come back to clarity.

2. People might talk. Let them.Fear of judgment can’t run your life. What God is doing in you is louder than their whispers.

3.You’re not valuable because of what you do. Your worth was never tied to your output. You were called into being—not just doing.

Whether you're feeling the burnout or afraid to slow down, this episode is a gentle reminder that peace doesn’t come from performance—it comes from presence. And sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is pause.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"You've been performing so long, it's hard to tell the difference between who you are and what you do."

"The truth is, is your identity was never meant to be tied to the output. What you do, God called you into being, to living, not just about what the doing is. You are a human being, not a human doing."

(​​00:00) Healthcare Leadership Transition Challenges

(05:48) Reevaluating Self-Worth and Success

(09:28) Pressure to Perform, Fear to Pause

(16:38) Overcoming Fear of Change

(20:18) Identifying Fear Keeping You Stuck

(24:00) "Engage with 'Unseen, Unspoken, Unwell'"