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How Rewards Teach Kids to Follow Rules for the Wrong Reasons

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Are rewards just another form of punishment in disguise? Ever thought that the key to nurturing genuine cooperation in your child lies beyond the promise of a star chart or a treat? In this episode of Peace and Parenting, I dive deep into the often-overlooked pitfalls of reward systems in parenting and how they can inadvertently erode the parent-child connection.

As a mother who once believed in handing out star stickers for good behavior, I share my journey of discovery and realization. I revisit the time I created an elaborate star chart to encourage my daughter, Esme, to complete tasks and exhibit positive behavior. Initially effective, this approach crumbled as Esme lost interest and I realized it was a form of manipulation rather than authentic motivation.

Join me as I challenge traditional parenting norms that prioritize compliance over connection.

In This Episode

  • The pitfalls of reward-based parenting
  • Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation in children
  • How rewards can erode parent-child connection
  • Benefits of connective parenting over compliance-focused methods

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Are rewards just another form of punishment in disguise? Ever thought that the key to nurturing genuine cooperation in your child lies beyond the promise of a star chart or a treat? In this episode of Peace and Parenting, I dive deep into the often-overlooked pitfalls of reward systems in parenting and how they can inadvertently erode the parent-child connection.

As a mother who once believed in handing out star stickers for good behavior, I share my journey of discovery and realization. I revisit the time I created an elaborate star chart to encourage my daughter, Esme, to complete tasks and exhibit positive behavior. Initially effective, this approach crumbled as Esme lost interest and I realized it was a form of manipulation rather than authentic motivation.

Join me as I challenge traditional parenting norms that prioritize compliance over connection.

In This Episode

  • The pitfalls of reward-based parenting
  • Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation in children
  • How rewards can erode parent-child connection
  • Benefits of connective parenting over compliance-focused methods

========

🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.

💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.

📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!

Follow Peace and Parenting:

YouTube: @peaceandparentingla

Instagram: @peaceandparenting

Facebook: @peaceandparentingla

Peace and Parenting Facebook Group


Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology
Our Sponsors:
* Check out Blueland: https://blueland.com/peace
* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
  continue reading

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