The Mixed Messages of Teasing: When we use humor to avoid difficult confrontations!

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Have you ever been teased before? Or maybe you were the one doing the teasing. We're going to assume both have been done before. Teasing is one of those 'could be friendly' or 'could be over the top' moments that happen to us every so often. Should you overthink it or push it to the side?
Join our Host, Dr. Tami - alongside our Producer, Rob Jollie - as they dive deeper into the subject of teasing!

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The Mixed Messages of Teasing: When we use humor to avoid difficult confrontations!

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Embracing Indigenous Wisdom: Redefining Happiness and Life's Cycles 34:35

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Send us a text Join us for an enriching conversation with Miss Debbie, an esteemed Anishinaabe elder, as she invites us to rethink our relationship with happiness and life's journey. Discover how seeing life as a gift, rather than a struggle, can transform daily challenges into celebrations. Through a captivating exchange, Miss Debbie and I contrast different perceptions of "work" and happiness, illustrating how language and perspective profoundly shape our experiences. With the metaphor of a baby's first cry as a joyful sign of life, she encourages us to greet each day with gratitude and celebration. Our journey doesn't stop there, as we examine the cyclical nature of life that Miss Debbie shares, challenging the linear views prevalent in Western psychology. The wisdom of our ancestors and the teachings of interconnectedness offer a fresh lens on happiness—one rooted in understanding our emotions as integral parts of us. Through the symbolism of the seven rocks, representing virtues like love and honesty, we emphasize the importance of community and living in harmony with all of nature. This episode is a bridge between complex psychological insights and practical well-being, offering actionable steps for a fulfilling life while fostering balance and respect for all living beings. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Letting Go: Navigating the Challenges of Forgiveness 46:53

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Send us a text Can understanding the psychology behind forgiveness mend your most strained relationships? Join us on "Psychologist Say" with Harold and me, Dr. Tami, as we unlock the secrets to forgiving and being forgiven. We dive deep into the emotional labyrinth that makes forgiveness so elusive, despite its apparent simplicity. From the difficulty of expressing heartfelt apologies to recognizing the hidden roots of our pain, we break down why letting go is often harder than holding on. Explore the art of communication and boundary-setting in relationships with us. We tackle the tough questions: When should you speak up, and when is it better to let things slide? Learn why assertiveness is key in preventing resentment, and how understanding individual sensitivities can strengthen your bonds. Our conversation also takes you through the nuances of friendly banter and the importance of sincere apologies in maintaining healthy connections. Finally, discover strategies for letting go, especially when forgiveness feels unattainable. We discuss the emotional toll of holding onto anger and offer ways to find peace by adjusting expectations. Learn how to accept people as they are and develop empathy for those who struggle with accountability. Whether it's dealing with a difficult colleague, a family member, or a friend, we provide insights to help you release emotional burdens and build more resilient, fulfilling relationships. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Innovative Solutions for Budget-Friendly Therapy 17:51

42 weeks ago17:51

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Send us a text Can affordable therapy really be within everyone’s reach? Join us as Dr. Tami and Harold tackle the critical issue of making mental health care accessible for individuals with low income. We start by demystifying the process of checking eligibility for insurance, highlighting how many might already qualify without knowing it. Dr. Tami shares her clinic's approach to sliding fee scales, ensuring that therapy costs are adjusted based on income and dependents. We also discuss state programs and human service centers that provide behavioral health services using similar sliding fee scales. Indigenous communities are not left out, as we shine a light on the invaluable resources offered by IHS facilities. We don't stop there. We delve into the broader issue of mental health care accessibility, emphasizing the glaring disparities faced by many. The conversation underscores the importance of making quality mental health services, including evidence-based treatments, available to everyone regardless of their financial situation or insurance status. We call on clinicians to innovate and find ways to make essential services accessible. And, we invite our listeners to engage with us, share their questions, and suggest topics for future discussions. Prioritizing mental health is crucial, and this episode is jam-packed with insights on how to seek the best possible support on a budget. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Navigating the Complex Landscape of Trauma and PTSD 36:33

43 weeks ago36:33

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Send us a text Have you ever wondered how trauma shapes our minds and bodies? Join Dr. Tami and Harold on the "PsychologistSay" podcast as she engages in a conversation about unraveling the complexities of trauma and PTSD in honor of National Awareness Month for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Dr. Tami kicks off the episode by identifying how trauma manifests through both direct and vicarious experiences, leaving lasting imprints on our mental and emotional health. Learn practical tips to safeguard yourself from vicarious trauma, especially when dealing with triggering content. Next, we venture into how trauma is perceived differently by each individual. Using familiar scenarios, such as the disappointment of not making a sports team versus the terror of surviving a car accident, we illuminate how personal history and perception play pivotal roles in shaping traumatic experiences. We also delve into the physiological responses that follow trauma, emphasizing that every person's reaction is unique and worth understanding. Finally, Dr. Tami explores the spectrum of trauma responses, from acute stress to PTSD, providing a clear distinction between different levels of trauma and their impacts. Through relatable examples like encountering a bobcat, she explains the natural fight, flight, or freeze responses and how the brain stores frightening memories. We discuss the various treatments available for trauma and stress reactions, offering hope and practical advice for those affected. Additionally, we address historical and generational trauma, particularly within Indian country, underscoring the critical role of psychological treatment in healing these deep-rooted wounds. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that aims to foster understanding and offer strategies for recovery. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Rethinking Happiness: Embracing the Full Spectrum of Emotions 39:26

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Send us a text Can happiness be our default state? Join Dr. Tami and Harold as they challenge this widespread belief and unpack the unrealistic expectations society places on us. Through candid discussions, they reveal how the pursuit of constant happiness can lead to stress and disappointment. Listen as Harold shares a touching moment of joy playing with his son, which highlights the sporadic nature of happiness and how it often appears when least expected. Dr. Tammy explains how true contentment stems from feeling calm and safe, rather than perpetually happy. Discover the intricate dynamics between pride and happiness in our next segment. Dr. Tammy and Harold delve into how pride in our achievements can stand alone, separate from the fleeting sensation of happiness. They stress the importance of embracing a full spectrum of emotions instead of being fixated on happiness. This nuanced understanding is especially crucial in relationships, where expecting constant happiness can create undue pressure. By navigating various emotions together, couples can foster a healthier, more resilient connection. In the final part of the episode, we dissect the difference between genuine happiness and temporary euphoria. Dr. Tammy and Harold caution against external means like drugs or alcohol for seeking joy, as these often lead to short-lived highs rather than true fulfillment. They also tackle the evolution of our eating habits, pointing out how modern consumption has shifted from survival to pleasure, which has contributed to addictive behaviors. This discussion sets the stage for future conversations about how these habits impact our overall well-being. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that aims to reshape your understanding of happiness and the effort required to attain it. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Rediscovering Your Past to Transform Your Present 36:06

45 weeks ago36:06

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Send us a text What if the key to understanding your adult struggles lies hidden in your childhood memories? On this episode of Psychologist Say, I, Dr. Tami, introduce Harold, our new official podcast production team member, as we embark on an insightful journey into unmet emotional needs. We explore how crucial nurturing and responsive care from parents are to a child's emotional development and how a parent's reaction to their child's crying can have long-lasting effects. Uncover how these early experiences manifest in adulthood, often triggering memories and shaping our emotional health. Childhood emotional trauma can leave deep scars that follow us into adult relationships. Harold and I emphasize the importance of doing personal "homework" to understand our histories and the traumas that shape us. We also stress the need for self-compassion and the acknowledgment of our parents' humanity and imperfections. By processing difficult comments and revelations and seeking professional help for intense traumas, we can better manage the impact they have on our well-being and foundational beliefs. Supportive relationships are vital for emotional growth and self-discovery. We discuss how having friends who provide both support and honest feedback can reshape our self-perceptions, especially when they challenge our internal negative beliefs. As we highlight the value of self-awareness and compassion in breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, we remind you that many might already be doing this emotional work unknowingly. Tune in to learn more about how self-compassion and supportive friendships can guide you on your journey toward healthier relationships and personal growth. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Tackling Public Speaking Anxiety: Myths and Mechanisms 36:51

46 weeks ago36:51

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Send us a text Can the fear of public speaking be more than just a nervous feeling? Discover how our brains can perceive an audience as a threat, leading to anxiety that can freeze even the most confident individuals. Join us on this episode of Psychologist Say with our special guest, Harold, as we unpack the psychological mechanisms behind public speaking anxiety. Learn about performance anxiety, social anxiety disorder, and the roles of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems in managing stress. Harold shares his journey of overcoming this common fear, offering hope and practical advice for anyone struggling to communicate effectively in front of an audience. Ever thought extroverts naturally excel at public speaking? Think again. We challenge this common misconception by exploring how public speaking anxiety impacts both introverts and extroverts. From the fear of being judged to the dynamics of how different personality types find comfort in social settings, this conversation highlights the complexity of human behavior. Gain valuable insights into how understanding these traits can help manage social anxiety and improve interpersonal relationships. Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, you'll find relatable experiences and expert advice that emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing these fears. Ready to tackle your public speaking anxiety head-on? We'll arm you with practical strategies and emphasize the importance of practice in overcoming this challenge. Harold and I discuss when it's crucial to seek mental health support, especially if anxiety significantly impairs your daily life. By recalling past successes and sharing personal stories, we aim to boost your confidence and motivate you to continue making progress. Download the episode and follow us on social media for more insightful content that encourages you to engage in meaningful conversations and conquer your fears one step at a time. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Finding the Right Fit: Choosing the Perfect Therapist for You 28:07

47 weeks ago28:07

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Send us a text Can choosing the right therapist be the key to unlocking a healthier, happier you? In our latest episode of Psychologist Say, Dr. Tami and our insightful guest Harold tackle this critical question head-on. We dive into the burgeoning world of telemedicine and how it has revolutionized access to therapy, particularly for those living in remote areas or grappling with social anxiety. We also discuss the important, yet often overlooked, decision of whether in-person or virtual therapy suits your needs. From exploring the impact of therapist gender on the therapeutic relationship to emphasizing the importance of making that initial step towards finding help, this episode is brimming with invaluable insights for anyone on a mental health journey. But what happens when therapy doesn't seem to be working? Dr. Tami and Harold share their expertise on navigating these waters, highlighting the necessity of open communication with your therapist and the importance of a good personality fit. Whether your therapist is direct and animated or more reflective and reserved, collaboration and honest feedback are key to effective therapy. We delve into the significance of expressing feelings of disconnection and how, sometimes, seeking a different therapist may be the best route. Tune in for a thoughtful discussion on making therapy work for you and ensuring that your path to mental wellness is as effective and fulfilling as possible. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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The Unspoken Truths Therapists Hold 17:46

48 weeks ago17:46

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Send us a text What if your therapist holds profound respect for your bravery, but never tells you? In this thought-provoking episode of Psychologist Say, I, Dr. Tammy, unpack the fascinating article "10 Things Your Therapist Probably Won't Tell You" by Gerlach from Psychology Today. We dive into the sacred and intimate relationship between therapist and patient, exploring how therapist disclosures, when done right, can build a bridge of trust and rapport. Walking into a therapist's office takes immense courage, and this episode acknowledges that bravery while providing insights into the qualities to look for in a therapist and addressing common questions that arise during therapy. Join me as we talk about the stigma around mental health and the strides we are making to overcome it. Understand that therapists view their clients with utmost respect and recognize that some truths take time to surface. This heartfelt episode provides a closer look at the unseen yet deeply felt aspects of psychotherapy, emphasizing the courage it takes to seek help and the respect therapists hold for their clients. Tune in and gain a deeper understanding of what makes the therapeutic process both challenging and incredibly rewarding. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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The Mind's Uninvited Guests and How to Handle Them 26:29

49 weeks ago26:29

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Send us a text Have you ever been jolted by a thought so strange and out of character that it stopped you in your tracks? Harold joined me in a riveting exchange where we unpack these mental intruders, commonly known as intrusive thoughts. We dissect the often negative and fear-inducing impact they have on our lives, from innocuous 'what-ifs' to thoughts that make us question our morality. This conversation isn't just about identifying these thoughts; it's a journey towards understanding the fine line between them and genuine urges, exploring the brain's oddities, and when to recognize that it's time to seek professional help. Harold's curiosity leads us through a nuanced discussion, shedding light on how stress, fatigue, and life's pressures can make us particularly vulnerable to these unwanted cogitations. We delve into the ways these thoughts can escalate from simply bizarre to indicators of deeper psychological issues like PTSD or OCD, potentially governing our behaviors and seeding irrational fears. By the end of our talk, not only will you feel less alone in your experiences, but you'll also be armed with the knowledge of how to manage these thoughts and when it's crucial to reach out for support. So sit back, listen, and let's navigate the murky waters of our mind together. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Unveiling the Trap of Experiential Avoidance: Confront Life with Courage and Insight 21:00

1 year ago21:00

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Send us a text Unlock the hidden patterns of your mind as we venture into the realm of experiential avoidance—a concept far more prevalent in our daily lives than we might realize. Have you ever noticed yourself shying away from uncomfortable tasks or conversations, only to face a mountain of stress later on? Our latest episode peels back the layers of this psychological behavior, revealing its deceptive allure and the subtle ways it can undermine our mental health. We dissect procrastination, a classic example of experiential avoidance, and discuss the irony of how seeking immediate relief can spiral into anxiety and chaos as deadlines loom. This enlightening journey into self-awareness promises to offer you a fresh perspective on the coping strategies you unwittingly employ and how they may be impacting your life. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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Breaking Free from Comfort Eating's Embrace 13:06

1 year ago13:06

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Send us a text Struggling with the invisible strings that tie your emotions to your eating habits? You're not alone, and I'm here to help unravel that knot. Join me, Dr. Tammy, on Psychologist Say, where we delve into emotional eating—the kind of eating that sneaks up on you when stress knocks on your door. This episode peels back the layers of why we reach for that extra cookie or slice of pizza when we're not necessarily hungry; it's about understanding the difference between eating because your body needs fuel and eating to soothe your soul. Let's explore how the chaos of the pandemic has tipped the scales toward increased emotional eating and substance use, and I'll share strategies for recognizing the true nature of your hunger. Now, if you're looking for ways to manage your emotional eating and consider the role of your weight, you're in the right place. Breaking the cycle of reaching for comfort foods takes more than just willpower—it's about creating an environment that encourages healthier choices and learning to sit with your emotions rather than snacking on them. I'll provide guidance on getting comfortable with natural hunger cues and taking control of the food that surrounds you at home. Remember, it's not about denying yourself pleasure or going on a strict diet; it's about a healthier relationship with food and, ultimately, with yourself. Let's take that first step towards a balanced lifestyle together. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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The Power of Perspective in Mental Wellness 10:56

1 year ago10:56

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Send us a text What if the way you think about your thoughts could drastically improve your mental health? Join me, Dr. Tami, on this episode of PsychologistSay as we explore the profound impact of rumination on anxiety and depression and uncover the gender-specific ways stress is internalized and externalized. You'll gain invaluable insights into the four main types of rumination—brooding, reflection, intrusive, and deliberate—and discover how recognizing these patterns can empower you to manage your mental well-being more effectively. But that’s not all. We’ll delve into the transformative power of reappraisal, a vital tool for overcoming negative thinking. Through engaging analogies and real-life scenarios, we’ll show you how shifting your perspective can turn feelings of failure into gratitude and satisfaction. Learn how to break the relentless cycle of rumination and embrace a healthier, more resilient mindset. Whether you're dealing with worries or looking to support someone else, this episode promises practical strategies and eye-opening revelations you won't miss. Your support matters to us! Please give us a follow on each of our platforms to stay updated on what we're doing at PsychologistSay. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/PyschologistSay Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologist_say/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@drtamitrottier…

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