ep 121 / Is Your Relationship Haunted by Ghosts of the Past?

Relationship Dish

Ever feel like you’re arguing with your partner’s past self—or like they’re stuck seeing you as who you used to be? In this candid and insightful episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona explore the “ghosts” that haunt our relationships—old dynamics, traumas, and one-dimensional perceptions that get projected onto our partners and shape how we relate.

From confirmation bias to emotional overfunctioning, they unpack how unresolved experiences (from childhood and from earlier stages of the relationship itself) can distort the present—and block growth. Iona shares a personal story about her pattern of going into Superwoman mode when her husband is unwell, and how her default reactions are slowly changing… even if the “ghost” of her old self still lingers. Pam opens up about facing similar struggles with her daughter.

Tune in for heartfelt reflection, a few laugh-out-loud moments, and some powerful insights on how to give your partner—and yourself—the space to evolve.