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What Is Stonewalling And Why Is It Destroying Your Marriage?
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Research shows that four specific communication behaviors during arguments can predict divorce with 80-90% accuracy, while eliminating these behaviors can dramatically improve marriage success.
• The four horsemen of relationship conflict are defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling
• Defensiveness deflects blame and responsibility, creating a downward spiral in communication
• Criticism attacks a partner's character rather than addressing specific behaviors
• Contempt is the most dangerous pattern, involving feelings of superiority toward your partner
• Stonewalling occurs when one partner mentally or physically shuts down during conflict
• The antidote to stonewalling is taking a purposeful break with the intention to resume later
• Taking time to cool down and process emotions leads to more productive conflict resolution
• Sometimes sleeping on an issue provides needed perspective, contrary to "don't go to bed angry" advice
• Breaking these harmful communication patterns requires recognizing and interrupting them early
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1. What Is Stonewalling And Why Is It Destroying Your Marriage? (00:00:00)
2. Four Factors That Predict Divorce (00:01:34)
3. Understanding Defensiveness & Criticism (00:02:28)
4. The Contempt Factor (00:04:19)
5. Stonewalling: The Silent Relationship Killer (00:05:47)
6. Breaking the Cycle & Taking Breaks (00:09:22)
7. Smart Contact Toolkit Introduction (00:11:47)
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Research shows that four specific communication behaviors during arguments can predict divorce with 80-90% accuracy, while eliminating these behaviors can dramatically improve marriage success.
• The four horsemen of relationship conflict are defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling
• Defensiveness deflects blame and responsibility, creating a downward spiral in communication
• Criticism attacks a partner's character rather than addressing specific behaviors
• Contempt is the most dangerous pattern, involving feelings of superiority toward your partner
• Stonewalling occurs when one partner mentally or physically shuts down during conflict
• The antidote to stonewalling is taking a purposeful break with the intention to resume later
• Taking time to cool down and process emotions leads to more productive conflict resolution
• Sometimes sleeping on an issue provides needed perspective, contrary to "don't go to bed angry" advice
• Breaking these harmful communication patterns requires recognizing and interrupting them early
Get our ultimate guide to better communication by visiting marriagehelper.com/smart to access our toolkit on how to communicate effectively, even when your spouse isn't talking to you.
If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free
📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://marriagehelper.com/call
🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com
📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper
👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper
Follow our other channels!
📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes
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Chapters
1. What Is Stonewalling And Why Is It Destroying Your Marriage? (00:00:00)
2. Four Factors That Predict Divorce (00:01:34)
3. Understanding Defensiveness & Criticism (00:02:28)
4. The Contempt Factor (00:04:19)
5. Stonewalling: The Silent Relationship Killer (00:05:47)
6. Breaking the Cycle & Taking Breaks (00:09:22)
7. Smart Contact Toolkit Introduction (00:11:47)
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