It's not my fault... it's MY Fault!

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Garth Heckman

The David Alliance

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Have you ever felt so bad over something you did that it affects even your appetite? You can’t even enjoy your favorite food or activity or people? And why… who was responsible for this?

Based on the information available from the search results regarding Chase Hughes's views, here are some basic traits and indicators he suggests looking for when trying to spot deception:

• Changes in Behavior: A key principle is to establish a person's baseline behavior when they are likely telling the truth (e.g., answering simple, non-threatening questions) and then look for changes in their behavior when the topic shifts to something they might be lying about. These changes can include deviations in how they answer questions, their eye movements, hand gestures, and breathing patterns.
• Stress and Fear Indicators: Deception is often linked to increased stress and fear. Physical signs associated with this can include an increased breathing rate, increased blink rate, and facial touching.
• "Closed" Behavior: Actions that suggest fear or a need to protect oneself, such as crossing arms or bringing fingers together, can be indicators.
• Increased Need for Control: As someone engages in deception, their need to control the situation and their presentation may increase.
• Difficulty with Reverse Chronology: When asked to recount events in reverse order, a person who has fabricated a story in forward chronology may struggle significantly compared to someone recalling actual events.
• Reactions to "Bait" Questions: Vague, hypothetical questions designed to see if a person shows a reaction even if they don't know if evidence exists (e.g., "Is there any reason someone might have seen you at a certain place?") can elicit a nervous response from someone being deceptive.
• Cluster of Unusual Mannerisms: While a single behavior is rarely a definitive sign of lying, observing a cluster of unusual mannerisms that deviate from the established baseline can be a warning sign.

Chase Hughes emphasizes that there is no single, universal body language signal for lying. Instead, the focus is on identifying deviations from a person's normal behavior and looking for clusters of indicators, particularly those related to stress and attempts to gain control. Raising the stakes of the conversation can also make deceptive behaviors more apparent.

Luke 22:62 Peter denies Jesus and goes out and weeps bitterly.

Bitter: GK Violently felt grief that leaves the soul and spirit tasting bitter.

Peter felt shame denying Christ… but shame is only the RED CARPET leading to bitterness.

Lets clear something up.

THIS IS A POWERFUL INSIGHT

Peter did not weep bitterly because of what Christ had said or done…

Why was Peter bitter?

HE WAS BITTER Because he did not respond correctly.

We want to blame our bitterness, unforgiveness, hard heartedness on what others did - but it is actually because OF WHAT WE DID NOT DO!

We typically become bitter not because of what someone did to us but rather because of how we responded and we know it was not Christ like.

Peter denied Christ and wept bitterly? Why bitterness? What did Peter do that made him bitter? *He did not represent Jesus AND He did not love the way Jesus would have loved… and he became bitter because of what he had done.

WE THINK AND SAY: I am so bitter because of what they did.

BUT THE TRUTH IS MORE ACCURATE:

I am so bitter because of WHAT I DID - Because of the way I responded.

**The right response heals not only us but the other person. Armando- wrapping my arms around him and telling him I loved him and want Gods best for him. He calls me later that night and falls apart.