73. Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible: How to Share the Load Without the Stress [Part 3]

ADHD Mums

You’re juggling everything, but no one seems to notice.

• You’re the one keeping track of school emails, therapy appointments, meal plans, and a million invisible tasks.
• Your brain never stops. The mental gymnastics of managing everything is exhausting.
• And when something doesn’t get done? That’s the only thing anyone notices.

🔥 This is the invisible mental load. And if it feels like it’s breaking you, you’re not alone.

PLUS we've put together A Kit for Making the Mental Load Visible (and Finally Sharing it). Download HERE.

In this episode, we’re breaking it all down:

• Why ADHD mums feel the weight of the mental load harder than anyone else
• The unseen tasks that no one else even thinks about
• Why your partner isn’t stepping in - and how to finally shift the balance
• Practical ways to make the invisible load visible - without it turning into another argument
• Small, realistic changes that actually help

This isn’t about doing more - it’s about making sure you don’t have to carry it all alone.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan - Part 1

7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load - Part 2

Family Meeting Template

Mental Load Cards

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Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are.

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD mental load, invisible mental load, sharing the mental load, ADHD mums, burnout, overwhelm, emotional labour, neurodivergent relationships, partner support, ADHD and parenting, mental load resentment, executive function challenges, ADHD household balance, relationship struggles, ADHD and marriage, division of labour, cognitive hyperactivity, unseen tasks, ADHD family dynamics, mental load exhaustion, practical strategies for ADHD mums, ADHD mum burnout, balancing responsibilities, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD-friendly household management, supporting an ADHD partner, communication in ADHD relationships, household workload, ADHD decision fatigue, ADHD overwhelm solutions.

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it.

ADHD Planner

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