77. Self-Sacrifice Is Not Your Friend (And Here’s Why)

ADHD Mums

If you’ve ever looked at your partner relaxing on the couch while you’re drowning in mental load and thought, “how are you not stressed right now?” - this episode is for you.

We’re digging into resentment, why ADHD mums feel so responsible for everything, and what happens when we keep putting ourselves last. This isn’t just about snapping - it’s about the emotional and neurological cost of being the one who always “holds it all together.”

It’s time to stop waiting for permission to rest, and start naming what you need.

💡 In This Episode:

• Why resentment isn’t about drama - it’s about unmet needs
• What “self-sacrifice” actually looks like when no one notices
• The guilt loop that keeps you from taking time for yourself
• Why ADHD makes it feel impossible to step away
• How to create space (and fairness) in your relationship - without blowing up

If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, running on empty, and waiting for your partner to just get it - this is the episode to listen to (and maybe even send their way).

Press play and let this be the moment you stop carrying it all alone.

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD mum burnout, resentment in relationships, self-sacrifice ADHD, ADHD and relationships, mental load ADHD, ADHD mum guilt, emotional overload, partner doesn’t understand ADHD, ADHD and mum rage, burnout in motherhood, ADHD relationship struggles, feeling unsupported ADHD, neurodivergent relationships, ADHD mental load, guilt and self-care, ADHD mum boundaries, emotional regulation ADHD, ADHD mums snapping, ADHD and unmet needs, how to talk to partner ADHD, overwhelmed mum ADHD

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