Authenticity: Practicing the Person You Want to Become

The Coach Is In

In this episode, Cat and Irene dive deep into the messy, meaningful topic of authenticity—especially when it comes to how we show up in our careers, relationships, and everyday lives. They explore how our identities evolve over time, how imposter syndrome can creep in during transitions, and what it really means to "practice" becoming who you are.

[00:01:00] Authenticity in Focus

The hosts reflect on showing up in multiple roles—lawyer, coach, mom—and how balance isn’t about doing it all, but knowing what matters right now.

[00:03:00] The Privilege to Explore

Irene talks about the luxury of choice in today’s generation, unlike the single-track goals of past generations.

[00:05:00] Surviving vs. Thriving

Discussion on the difference between earning for survival and building a career that’s an expression of identity.

[00:07:00] Aligning Actions with Values

Cat reframes how going to work or the gym can still align with values like supporting your family, even if it doesn't look traditional.

[00:10:00] Undoing Generational Scripts

Irene shares how many of us are unlearning beliefs about stability, creativity, and value from older generations.

[00:12:00] Taking it One Value at a Time

Real talk on the pressure to find a perfect career that hits all your values—spoiler: it’s okay to take your time.

[00:14:00] Faking It vs. Practicing It

Irene and Cat discuss the discomfort of growth and how “faking it” can actually be part of the process of becoming.

[00:18:00] The Power of Presence

The importance of just being there and showing up authentically—even in imperfection—is often more powerful than polished performance.

[00:20:00] Discerning Growth from Discomfort

A thoughtful reflection on knowing when you're on the verge of transformation versus just feeling off-track.

[00:23:00] Doing it Your Way

Irene shares her evolving identity and how she’s learning to lead and negotiate in a way that honors her femininity and authenticity.

[00:26:00] Visual Takeaway

Identity is like trying on new clothes—you get to keep what fits and change when it doesn’t. It’s all part of the journey.

Follow The Coach Is In wherever you get your podcasts so you never miss an episode. Reflect on your own hierarchy of values: What matters most to you right now? Give yourself grace as you evolve—authenticity is a practice, not a fixed trait.

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