154: Co-Parenting: Differing Locations and Differing Perspecitves

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Let's talk about Co-parenting. When two people (or more, when step-parents are involved) are working at raising children....we won't always agree on how to parent.

Sharoya and Susie have some insight and ideas for you.

Sharoya-- www.embracebehaviorchange.com

Susie-- www.healthyexpatparent.com

Find out more at: www.thebigpurpleblob.com

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154: Co-Parenting: Differing Locations and Differing Perspecitves

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published about a year ago

MP4•Episode home

Let's talk about Co-parenting. When two people (or more, when step-parents are involved) are working at raising children....we won't always agree on how to parent.

Sharoya and Susie have some insight and ideas for you.

Sharoya-- www.embracebehaviorchange.com

Susie-- www.healthyexpatparent.com

Find out more at: www.thebigpurpleblob.com

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183- How Did You Start Out in The Foreign Service? Origin Stories 45:29

14 weeks ago45:29

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Connect with us at: www.thebigpurpleblob.com Tell us your story, share your ideas for episode topics, set up a time to talk with one of us for personal coaching and find more purpose in your overseas life. Lisa Tilstra, Angi Solley, Sharoya Ham, Susie Czorz-Brown are all HERE for it!

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182.5- BONUS Third Culture Kid: An In-Depth Understanding with Megan Norton 35:21

15 weeks ago35:21

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A deep dive into what it means to be a Third Culture Kid “ Letters Now Sent ” Book Invitation: You are invited to submit a written piece for the book, “ Letters Now Sent .” Inspired by Ruth Van Reken 's book " Letters Never Sent ", " Letters Now Sent " will be a collection of letters from TCKs, parents of TCKs, and system leaders to share personal stories about their experiences with TCKs/being a TCK themself/raising TCKs. This book is a fusion of both memoir and anthology written in a specific "Dear ___[name]___" format. Here is the Google Form link to submit a letter with additional details about length and content prompts: https://forms.gle/jQyzq3TtFqfyznvCA . Please contact Megan Norton ( megancnorton@gmail.com ) if you have any questions about this book project. “ A Work of Heart ”, a project led by Simona Wiig and Megan Norton, invites any individual who has had a Third Culture experience to submit their artwork expressions depicting their cross-cultural story for the first volume of art collections (including any visual rendering, song lyrics, poetry, videography, etc.) for and by CCKs/TCKs/migrants/global nomads/whatever ‘label’ that encompasses the Third Culture experience. Both Simona Wiig and Megan Norton are creators, artists, dreamers, and Adult TCKs who desire to showcase the Third Culture experience through visual artwork created by fellow friends who have grown up crossing-cultures. Submissions are due by May 1, 2025 for Volume 1. Please contact Megan Norton ( megancnorton@gmail.com ) if you have any questions about this book project.…

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182- A 'How To' on IEPs (Personalized Educational Plans for your kid in school) 47:40

16 weeks ago47:40

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181- Therapy for ExPats in 2025: What are the Options? 49:10

18 weeks ago49:10

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Let's find out what the options are for meeting with a therapist in the Diplomatic community these days. Have you been wondering if therapy could help you? Are you struggling to find the right therapist for your needs? Frustrated with therapists who don’t understand the challenges of expatlife? Connect with us at: https://thebigpurpleblob.com Therapists Shanon Miller and Brittney Foose from Apricity Expat Therapy offer practical guidance to help you live your best life in 2025 through therapy. https://apricityexpattherapy.com/ To work with Sharoya directly check out: www.embracebehaviorchange.com…

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180- Government to Private work Transition: Expert Ben Fowle did it 46:11

20 weeks ago46:11

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179- Idea to Publish: Steps to Become an EFM Author 42:43

22 weeks ago42:43

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David Wessel - author of Choosing Sides, the tale of an ordinary family torn apart by Hitler’s Germany https://www.amazon.com/CHOOSING-SIDES-David-K-Wessel/dp/1952439779 Sharoya Ham and Katie Fowle - Help my child won't go to school https://www.amazon.com/Help-My-Child-Wont-School-ebook/dp "If there is a book you want to read but it hasn't yet been written, you must be the one to write it." ~ Toni Morrison AFSA November issue has a listing of all identified books published by Foreign Service members. Find a supportive community who can contribute to the end product. Reviewers, illustrators, proof-readers. It pays to find an experienced, non-biased, expert to give feedback. www.shutupandwrite.com…

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175: Ask the Med Experts, update 2025; What to know about Med while living overseas NOW 57:25

24 weeks ago57:25

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Should I accept an overseas post with my current medical condition? What are my options? This is the episode on Med Services you ALL want to hear. Let's talk about specifics on general medical clearances and mental health. Join us to consider your own choice in how to connect your medical needs to the work/location you are considering. Expert insights from: Director Jen Monna--Health Unit experienced current director Kip Quenin- Psychaitrist, Mental Health professional MED Sharepoint homepage: https://usdos.sharepoint.com/sites/MED/SitePages/Public/Main Med survey www.bit.ly/MEDFeedbackSurvey MED Internet Site: https://www.state.gov/bureaus-offices/under-secretary-for-management/bureau-of-medical-services/ Child and Family Programs, for SNEA inquiries: MEDCFP@state.gov To connect with Susie directly check out: www.healthyexpatparent.com…

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178- Expat Parenting: Are You Getting it Wrong???🤷‍♀️ 42:53

24 weeks ago42:53

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"If you think you aren't doing it well, that thought means your heart is turned to your kid, and you are already 70% there," says Dr. Jean Kawiecki. As a psychologist, educator, and adult TCK Dr. Kawiecki is deeply passionate about helping TCKs and their parents through the various transitions of TCK life. Talk with Sharoya directly to get more support in your parenting: www.embracebehaviorchange.com Resources mentioned: The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young Six Core Needs of Kids by Adam Young Misunderstood by Tanya Crossman Raising Up a Generation of Healthy Third Culture Kids: A Practical Guide to Preventive Care by Lauren Wells The Grief Tower: A Practical Guide to Processing Grief with Third Culture Kids by Lauren Wells The RAFT…

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177- Career Options, EFM/Trailing Spouse work decisions 48:21

29 weeks ago48:21

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176- Tax Expert for International Work, EFMs and more 50:39

31 weeks ago50:39

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174- Considering Political Ideologies, Living Overseas...DIPLOMATIC STYLE 29:39

34 weeks ago29:39

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Does living in different places shape or shift your perspective on political leanings? Join us to talk about what we've noticed. In this talk, Jenni and Angi are considerate of varied opinions across the board. This discussion aims to be inclusive for all, while we all decide our politics as individuals. Especially how this works within families and third culture kids. To work with Jenni directly check out: www.theexpatmom.com To work with Angi directly (parents and teens) connect at: www.teenlines.com…

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173- Budgeting for Diplomats: Home Leave is coming...you should probably save for that! 31:58

39 weeks ago31:58

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172- Mammograms- There's MORE to know! 26:19

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171: The "Anxious Generation" Parenting Third Culture Kids Today 42:33

41 weeks ago42:33

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170- Talking about School Shootings & Fear as an Expat 22:17

42 weeks ago22:17

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169: Bidding in 2024---Foreign Service Life! 39:01

43 weeks ago39:01

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Bidding can be pretty overwhelming. Talk it through with experienced adults who understand. Join Sharoya Ham and Susie Czor-Brown. Work with us at www.thebigpurpleblob.com Resources mentioned in this episode: Below link to online version of the FSI Post Info to Go boxes that can be super useful for bidding considerations. https://online.fsi.state.gov /PITG (PITG-External), the online version for family members and interagency colleagues. Holding the fort abroad https://www.amazon.com/Holding-Fort-Abroad-Surviving-parenting/dp/1838167013…

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168: Let's Talk About Mammograms 18:30

44 weeks ago18:30

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Sometimes healthcare isn't simple and easy overseas. Join us for a discussion on Mammograms. Visit us at TheBigPurpleBlob.com Jennie: www.theexpatmom.com Susie: www.healthyexpatparent.com

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167 - Heading to College, TCK version: Featuring 19 year old Lucca ⭐️ Mistakes we made and Things we have learned 26:05

45 weeks ago26:05

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166- Diplo Dogs & Cats- Pet families who move a lot... 30:58

1 year ago30:58

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Angi & Jennie share their stories of learning how to navigate the UNPREDICTABILITY of pet ownership as a nomad. Have an interesting experience you want to share with our wider community? Join us for a chat. Please join us and share your ideas at www.thebigpurpleblob.com Connect with Jennie: www.theexpatmom.com Connect with Angi: www.teenlines.com…

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164: Staying Connected with my Adult TCK, Engagement 38:05

1 year ago38:05

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Living overseas sometimes means that we miss out on important life events for family members because we are at a distance. What do you do when your child marries someone you don't know really well because you live so far away? In this episode, Sharoya chats with another veteran EFM. They share their emotional journey to accept what is and embrace the beauty of what will be. How will living at a distance affect this experience? Sharoya Ham shares her wisdom and insights here. Please join us at www.thebigpurpleblob.com And reach out to Sharoya directly at www.embracebehaviorchange.com…

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163- My TCK Needs to Talk to a Professional- How do I start that? 37:09

1 year ago37:09

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162- TCK College kids, Home for the Summer 25:35

1 year ago25:35

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161= RESPECT in the Parent/Teen Relationship 17:42

1 year ago17:42

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160: Expert Insights from Dr. Teneshia Taylor: Kids of color in International Schools 30:46

1 year ago30:46

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Dr Teneshia Taylor's study of the experince of kids' of color, comparing US schools with international schools. In this Blob episode we are talking about mitigating the problem, helping kids of all colors have the educational experience they deserve. Dr. Taylor is researching the current events around anti-black racism. She has conducted a direct study of WHAT black kids experience in International schools currently. Perhaps less often occurences in International Schools but still CONSTANTLY happening in schools today. To reach Dr. Teneshia Taylor send message to: bbeyondbias@gmail.com Find Susie at-- www.healthyexpatparent.com…

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159: How to BID- Selecting Your Next Post Wisely 30:02

1 year ago30:02