The Performance Trap: What Happens at the Intersection of Hyper-Capable with No Margin

Cowgirls Over Coffee

Sure you can handle it all, but where is taking you? In this deeply personal, wildly validating summer conversation, Thea sits down with longtime friend and Cowgirls Over Coffee original Audrey Hall to unpack a question many of us are circling: What happens when your capability becomes your identity … and your margin disappears?

This is an episode for the woman who’s built a life she’s proud of and is left asking why it still feels so hard. For the one who gets it done, who performs under pressure, who’s known for delivering but lives in depletion.

Together, Thea and Audrey explore:

• Why “high performance” starts to feel like a trap.
• The difference between nurturing your ambition vs. demanding from it.
• What it really costs to prove your capability over and over again.
• How excellence can mask burnout.
• Why we sometimes feel safer in stress than in stillness.
• And, what it means to move from rocky soil to something more nourishing.

You’ll hear stories about rodeo royalty, sad girl eras, and gym floor epiphanies but underneath it all is a real-time conversation about rebuilding your relationship with ambition, restoration, and joy. If you’ve ever said, “I’m not afraid of the effort, but dang I’m tired of proving my worth through it.,” this one’s for you.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Follow Audrey Hall on Instagram at @audreyetta.
• Listen to Audrey’s new podcast, Cowgirl Church.
• Books by Trevor Mowad: It Takes What It Takes and Getting to Neutral.

Let’s Keep the Conversation Going

Screenshot this episode and tag @cowgirlsovercoffee with your favorite takeaway. Tell us your flavor of patience, your version of presence, or what kind of soil you’re growing in this summer.