Smashing the Patriarchy: Leading with Self-Awareness and Emotional Intelligence with Jeremy Stockdale

Dads Interrupted

In this episode of Dad's Interrupted, we dive into a thought-provoking conversation with leadership coach Jeremy, known for his bold stance on smashing the patriarchy and rethinking traditional leadership paradigms. Jeremy opens up about his journey from corporate leadership to embracing a more inclusive, values-driven approach to both his work and personal life—centered on emotional intelligence and challenging restrictive masculinity.

Throughout the episode, we explore:

• Smashing the Patriarchy: Jeremy reflects on how his daughter’s t-shirt with the phrase "On Wednesdays We Smash the Patriarchy" sparked a personal transformation. This became a rallying cry for his own evolution from patriarchal leadership to more empathetic, balanced leadership both at home and at work.
• The pivotal role of self-awareness in leadership—Jeremy shares how understanding your emotions and behaviors can create stronger connections and help you show up more intentionally as a leader in all areas of life.
• The importance of defining how you want people to feel in your presence, whether they’re colleagues, employees, or family members. Jeremy explains how he shifted his focus from outcomes to the impact of his presence on those around him.
• Insights from the Positive Intelligence framework, which helps individuals identify and manage their inner saboteurs—like impatience or restlessness—to show up as the leader they truly want to be.
• Practical advice for parents and leaders on how to visualize success in difficult moments—such as managing stressful parenting moments or tough meetings—and move beyond knee-jerk reactions to become the role models they aspire to be.
• The power of observing yourself—whether in leadership or parenting—and asking: "Is this how I want to show up?" It’s about understanding the bigger picture and aligning your actions with your core values.

Jeremy’s journey isn’t just about personal growth; it’s about challenging outdated norms and creating a world where leadership isn’t defined by control, dominance, or traditional gender roles. It’s about dismantling the patriarchy and embracing a new way of leading—with empathy, integrity, and emotional intelligence.

Join us as we discuss how smashing the patriarchy is not just an idea, but a movement that can radically transform leadership in both the workplace and at home.

About Jeremy:

Jeremy is the CEO & Founder of YLead, a data-driven and human-led leadership consultancy. YLead is revolutionizing workplace leadership to have a net positive impact on companies, people and society by helping organizations create inclusive environments where all employees can thrive.

Connect with Jeremy:

• Jeremy's LinkedIn
• Email: [email protected]

If you’re interested in leadership development or tackling patriarchy head-on, Jeremy’s work is a must-follow.

About the Host:

Hi, I'm Fred Van Riper—husband, father, former construction professional, and creator of the Connection Architecture Process. I help growth-oriented leaders become more clear, confident, and connected through transformational leadership development.

I work with leaders who are successful on paper but know there's another level available—leaders who want to architect genuine connection rather than hope for it. Whether you're leading teams, building businesses, or navigating the complexities of modern fatherhood, everything starts with how you lead yourself.

This podcast explores the intersection of leadership, connection, and authentic living. No corporate fluff. No outdated "authority" models. Just real conversations about the invisible forces that shape how we show up—and practical tools to transform them.

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Everything begins with how you lead yourself. Your success, how you handle failure, conflict, and challenging emotions—it all connects back to how connected you are to yourself and others. Let's architect that connection together.

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