Why Great Couples Still Break Up (and How to Make Sure You Don’t) with Nick Brancato

Dads Interrupted

When did your relationship stop feeling like a team effort?

In this power-packed episode, Frederick sits down with Nick Brancato—relationship strategist, personal development coach, and author of Prioritize Us—to unpack why so many couples fall into “priority drift,” and how to realign before it’s too late. Nick shares the simple but powerful Total Difference Score (TDS) test, a practical framework to help couples measure their alignment, spot silent tension before it explodes, and build back daily connection.

This conversation is honest, heartfelt, and full of actionable tools for anyone ready to stop coasting and start co-creating in their relationship.

Topics include:

• What “priority drift” is—and why even loving couples fall into it
• The Total Difference Score (TDS) and how to use it to measure alignment
• Why commitment is a daily decision, not a one-time promise
• Simple rituals that build trust, intimacy, and shared direction
• How to have the right conversations before resentment sets in

Takeaway: If you don’t check in with your partner, you risk checking out of your relationship. Alignment doesn’t happen by accident—it happens by design.

NICK BRANCATO is a seasoned personal development coach and educator with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples connect, communicate, and thrive. With a master’s degree in education and a background as a Microsoft systems engineer, Nick blends practical tools with data-driven frameworks to guide clients through life’s challenges, including career shifts, financial pressures, and personal growth.

Nick’s holistic process incorporates meditation, guided visualization, and hypnotherapy, emphasizing both emotional insight and actionable steps. By fostering deeper connections and mental clarity, Nick empowers couples to transform tension into trust and misalignment into mutual success, creating lasting, meaningful change in their relationships.

Get a digital copy of Nick’s book Prioritize Us FREE at nickbrancato.com

Find Nick here:

https://www.nickbrancato.com/

https://www.instagram.com/personaldevcoach/

https://www.amazon.com/Prioritize-Us-Unlock-Lasting-Priority/dp/B0DLVNWTJD

About the Host:

Hi, I'm Fred Van Riper—husband, father, former construction professional, and creator of the Connection Architecture Process. I help growth-oriented leaders become more clear, confident, and connected through transformational leadership development.

I work with leaders who are successful on paper but know there's another level available—leaders who want to architect genuine connection rather than hope for it. Whether you're leading teams, building businesses, or navigating the complexities of modern fatherhood, everything starts with how you lead yourself.

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