Trystan’s Journey: A trans uterus is NOT an uninhabitable environment

AllPaths Podcast

In this episode of the AllPaths Podcast, we speak with Trystan Reese, a father of three, advocate, educator, and an "all-around nerd" when it comes to transgender fertility and family building. Trystan shares his personal and professional journey, starting with his experience growing up in a conservative town as a transgender man without the language to understand his identity, leading him to initially believe "there was something wrong" with him. He recounts how, after transitioning and taking testosterone, he chose to keep his reproductive organs, allowing him to ultimately build his family through both adoption and biology.

Trystan reveals that as a young person, he never wanted to be a parent, a sentiment that aligns with data showing many transgender adolescents do not envision themselves in parental roles. Looking back on that time, Trystan reflects that “it's very possible that transgender youth, including myself at that age, just don't really see a world where they could ever be a parent.” He highlights the significant lack of fertility counseling he received 20 years ago when medically transitioning, where he was wrongly told testosterone would render him infertile. This experience fueled a healthy skepticism towards medical providers, as he found community knowledge often outpaced medical understanding. Trystan elaborates on his own pregnancy journey, describing it as a "cool weird science thing" that was mostly neutral, defying the universal expectation of dysphoria for trans pregnant people, as about a third feel neutral, and another third find it surprisingly improves their body comfort.

His decision to go public with his pregnancy aimed to share a positive trans story and demonstrate expanded possibilities for others and was surprised that it was such a "big deal" outside the trans community. Since deciding to be public about his fertility journey, Trystan has been a passionate advocate for the entire trans community, including non-binary people, trans people of color, and transgender women. From training medical centers and fertility clinics globally on providing trauma-informed care and respectful communication for transgender patients to working towards reshaping public narratives and promoting broader trans inclusion through his sharing his own story, Trystan hopes to inspire everyone to use their "sphere of influence" to advocate for trans inclusion in their communities and workplaces.

LINKS:

Connect with Trystan at Collaborate Consulting and Trans Fertility Co..

Read Trystan’s books How We Do Family (sharing his family's story through kinship adoption and pregnancy) and The Light of You (children’s book celebrating a pregnant transgender dad’s journey to bringing a new baby into a family)

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

Trans fertility, reproductive care, adoption, kinship adoption, transgender community, dysphoria, gender identity, trans pregnant people, trans parents, feminist kids books, allyship, inclusion, provider support, reproductive justice, transgender reproductive justice, gay dad, transgender man, seahorse dad, author, activist, consultant, public speaker, transgender family building, fertility preservation for transgender individuals, LGBTQ+ parenting, parenting journeys, adoption and transgender families, transgender pregnancy experiences, support for transgender parents, navigating family building, reproductive health for transgender people, community support for LGBTQ+ families, emotional challenges in family building, resources for transgender parents, representation in media for transgender families, advocacy for LGBTQ+ rights, medical care for transgender individuals, stories of transgender parents, parenting advice for LGBTQ+ families, societal perceptions of transgender pregnancy, fertility options for transgender individuals, inclusive family planning practices

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