2. Why Am I An Overachiever?

Overachiever's Oracle

You’ve done it all- the degrees, the promotions, the accolades. On paper, your life is the definition of success. So why does it still feel so empty? In this episode, I’m diving into the overachiever's dilemma-the relentless pursuit of excellence that leaves us burned out and disconnected from what we actually want. I’ll share why productivity feels like a drug, how success becomes an ever-moving goalpost, and why external validation will never be enough. Plus, I’ll unpack the myth of noble sacrifice and what it really takes to reclaim your life from the cycle of overachievement.

What I cover in this episode:

• The Overachiever's Struggle: Why pausing feels like withdrawal and stillness feels unsafe.
• The Ever-Moving Goalpost: How success keeps slipping further away, no matter how much you achieve.
• The Trap of External Validation: When you master being impressive but lose sight of what you truly want.
• My Story of Climbing Kilimanjaro: The difference between striving for validation and pursuing personal fulfillment.
• The Overachiever's Dilemma for Black Women: How systemic inequities keep us working twice as hard for half the recognition.
• Breaking Free from the Productivity Myth: Why you can’t outwork a rigged system—and why you don’t have to.
• Redefining Success: How to stop chasing validation and start creating a life that prioritizes joy, rest, and ease.

If you’ve been stuck on the hamster wheel of overachievement, this episode is your reminder: you are worthy of ease, support, and rest without having to earn it. The real flex isn’t proving how much you can endure. It’s building a life that doesn’t require you to sacrifice yourself. So, let’s redefine success on your terms. You deserve nothing less.