The Real Reason You’re Still Unhappy (Even After Getting What You Want)

Show Your Value with Lee Benson

Let's talk about holistic value creation. It’s not just about material success; it’s about balancing material value, emotional energy, and spiritual connectedness. When these are in harmony, life feels fulfilling. But when one is off, especially emotional energy, it becomes tough to find true happiness.
There's a big difference between chasing happiness and pursuing fulfillment. So many people get what they think they want, a new job, a bigger house, even a big payday, only to realize they’re still unfulfilled. Why? Because they’re focused on external happiness rather than internal fulfillment.
In my own journey, fulfillment has become my most important number. It’s not always easy to measure, but I can feel when I’m moving in the right direction. Struggle has played a huge role in that. The hard things, the ones that stretch us—often bring the deepest sense of fulfillment.
I also share my experience leading Dinner Table and how building a community of over 32,000 parents focused on raising kids to create value in the world has been one of the most fulfilling, yet challenging, projects of my life.
If you’ve ever felt stuck chasing happiness and still ending up unfulfilled, I encourage you to listen and reflect. I share a simple exercise that’s helped me: writing down what makes you feel fulfilled and what doesn’t. It’s eye-opening and can guide you to live a more meaningful life.
In this episode, I cover:
- The real source of emotional energy and how it impacts happiness
- Why fulfillment should be your most important number
- The role of struggle in creating lasting value
- How building community can combat feelings of isolation and disconnection
- A practical exercise to help you identify what truly fulfills you
Let’s dig deep into what it really means to create value, not just for others, but for ourselves.

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