Mindful Parenting: A Child's Point Of View Shrinks Rap podcast

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Dr. Jim welcomes back his podcast comrade, Rafael Cortina, who returns to the studio after stepping into his new role as President of the International Association for the Advancement of Gestalt Therapy (IAAGT). In this episode, Rafael shares insights from his leadership journey and offers a fresh take on the impact of Gestalt Therapy. He explores key principles including existentialism, parts work, present-moment awareness, and the transformative power of self-acceptance in fostering healthier relationships. Rafael also highlights the influence of Gestalt on contemporary approaches like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), along with his own expertise in trauma and addiction. But it’s not all theory—Dr. Jim and Rafael dive into their beloved offseason ritual: talking 49ers football. From leadership in therapy to leadership on the field, the conversation flows into a spirited discussion about the team’s future and the importance of community, both on and off the gridiron. This episode might just inspire you to sign up for an international Gestalt training—or snag tickets to a 49ers game and cheer on Brock Purdy, now Mr. Very Relevant. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Hour of the Heart: Connecting in the Here and Now 53:13

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In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Jim interviews Ben Yalom about his moving collaboration with his father, renowned psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom, on their co-authored book, Hour of the Heart: Connecting in the Here and Now. Ben reflects on what it was like growing up in the shadow of a famous father—and in Palo Alto, no less, where not inventing a technological breakthrough by age 14 made you seem like a slacker. He shares how he forged his own unique path in theater, coaching, and therapy, while still honoring his father’s influence. We also explore the origin of the book: Irv, facing memory loss and aging, invited Ben to help him capture and shape his reflections—many drawn from decades of work with patients. Having supported his father on previous writing projects, Ben stepped into this collaboration with both tenderness and clarity. Throughout the conversation, we dive into themes of aging, legacy, father-son connection, existentialism, and the power of being present. Whether you’re a therapy enthusiast, a clinician, or someone interested in meaningful relationships across generations, this episode offers rich insights and warm humanity. Hour of the Heart speaks to both everyday readers and therapy nerds (like yours truly). Don’t miss this intimate and inspiring dialogue. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Persuasive Design, the Digital Child, and the Screen Time Industrial Complex: What Parents and Society Can Do to Restore Childhood 53:29

about a year ago53:29

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Dr. Jim Interviews Dr. Richard Freed In this powerful episode, Dr. Jim sits down with psychologist and author Dr. Richard Freed, whose new book Better Than Real Life examines how persuasive design is reshaping childhood—and not for the better. Dr. Freed’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and other major media outlets. And he’s also the author of the influential book Wired Child. You’ll hear a personal story about Dr. Freed’s long-lost Harvard certificate. And you’ll learn about his roots in Silicon Valley—back when it was covered in orange groves (okay, maybe not that long ago) and chips meant Pringles. Dr. Freed pulls back the curtain on persuasive design and what Jim calls “attention fracking”—how screen-based platforms, powered by behavioral science, hijack kids’ attention and emotions for profit. He explores how Big Tech uses these tools to draw children into the multiverse of social media, video games, and streaming content—stealing them away from the real-world experiences they need to thrive. Determined to speak truth to power, Dr. Freed exposes the science behind screen addiction and how it renders young minds vulnerable to manipulation. He makes the case for reclaiming a childhood centered on family, education, nature, and real human connection—not devices engineered for dependency. This episode is essential listening for parents, educators, and anyone concerned with the future of childhood in the digital age. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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My Tea with Andre: Couples Work and the Nexus Between Reactivity and Victimization 43:40

about a year ago43:40

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Andre DeCary returns for his third episode—just two more, and he earns the coveted ShrinkRap jacket, SNL-style! In this conversation, Andre shares his distinctive approach to couples therapy, highlighting the key differences between working with individuals and couples. He also reflects on personal insights from his own life in this domain. Together, we explore the profound impact of reactivity on victimization—how staying out of a victim mindset can empower both you and your partner. Andre offers thoughtful perspectives on breaking free from disempowering narratives to create healthier, more connected relationships. This episode is a treat, so grab your tea and soak it all in! WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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An Exclusive Interview with Dr. Diane Ehrensaft: The John Lennon of Pediatric Gender Care 52:06

about a year ago52:06

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An Exclusive Interview with Dr. Diane Ehrensaft, a.k.a., the John Lennon of Pediatric Gender Care Dr. Jim sits down with the prolific and brilliant Dr. Diane Ehrensaft, a leading expert in pediatric gender care who envisions a more inclusive world for gender expression. A scholar, psychologist in private practice, author, child advocate, parent coach, and UCSF researcher, she plays a pivotal role in advancing cutting-edge gender-affirming care for children and adolescents. In this episode, Dr. Ehrensaft discusses her latest book, Gender Explained, co-authored with Michelle Jerkiewicz, Psy.D. She tackles the persistent myths surrounding gender care and compares transphobia today to the outdated beliefs of flat earthers. Like John Lennon, she dares to imagine a future of greater acceptance and understanding, predicated on love, empathy, truth, and caring. With humor, she reflects on the challenges of her field, joking that, given the current political climate, life might have been easier had she pursued dance instead of psychology. She also speaks candidly about the archaic and transphobic policies emerging from Project 25 and the ongoing battle to ensure access to gender-affirming care. Dr. Ehrensaft's research explores the development and psychological experiences of transgender, nonbinary, and gender-expansive youth. She is actively involved in studies on the developmental pathways of gender-diverse children before puberty and the mental health outcomes of those who choose puberty blockers or gender-affirming hormones. Stick around until the end of the episode. Dr. Ehrensaft takes on University of Michigan trivia with enthusiasm. Go Blue! WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Healing from Emotionally Immature Parents: A Positive Ripple Effect 47:51

about a year ago47:51

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In this powerful episode, Dr. Jim Bramson interviews Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, clinical psychologist and bestselling author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Together, they delve into the lasting impact of emotionally immature parents on their children’s lives—from feelings of neglect and rejection to lifelong challenges with self-worth, relationships, and parenting. Dr. Gibson explains the four types of emotionally immature parents, how their behaviors influence family dynamics, and shares practical strategies for healing. She highlights the importance of setting healthy boundaries, developing emotional autonomy, and differentiating from immature parents to reclaim personal identity and foster growth. Lindsay also discusses how these experiences affect our own parenting styles and the journey to healing the inner child. The conversation explores the impact of emotional neglect or unresolved childhood trauma and how these patterns manifest in adulthood. Dr. Gibson stresses that in contrast to emotionally immature parents, emotionally mature parents are curious, emotionally attuned, and are on the lookout for ways to improve their child’s self-worth. On a lighter note, Dr. Bramson shares the fascinating origin of Mt. Pleasant, Michigan—a town where Dr. Gibson attended graduate school and a special place for your Michigan-native host. This episode blends deep emotional insight with inspiring stories of hope and intergenerational transformation. Whether you’re on a personal healing journey or looking to break generational cycles, this episode is for you. Tune in for a thought-provoking and uplifting conversation. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex, And How To Get It 51:39

about a year ago51:39

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Live from Berkeley California - Dr. Marty Klein keynotes at the Human Potential Conference. Dr. Marty Klein – certified sex therapist, award-winning author of 7 books, and New York Times-lauded educator - shares his ideas about Sexual Intelligence, explaining how we create our own sexual obstacles--and how to overcome them, "without losing 10 pounds, getting a new sex toy, or learning exotic new techniques." Download and follow along with the slides from Dr. Klein's website . WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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The End of Arguing and the Beginning of Great Sex 52:16

about a year ago52:16

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Live from Berkeley California - Linda and Charlie Bloom present on The End of Arguing and the Beginning of Great Sex at the Human Potential Conference. Linda and Charlie are celebrated marriage and relationship experts, workshop leaders, trainers, authors, co-therapists, and curators of knowledge on successful relationships. They discuss adjusting to sex life in an aging body, while learning to keep love alive and passionate. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Exploring the Depths of Psychotherapy with Barbara Holifield 1:06:28

about a year ago1:06:28

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In this compelling episode of ShrinksRap.com , my beloved co-host and trauma expert, Rafael Cortina, sits down with psychotherapist and author Barbara Holifield to discuss her groundbreaking new book, Being With The Body In Depth Psychology . Together, they delve into the profound integration of bodily experience within depth psychology. Drawing on philosophical insights, neuroscience, infant research, developmental theory, and trauma studies, Barbara offers a comprehensive perspective on embodiment in relational psychoanalytic practice. Listeners will discover Barbara’s inspirations for writing the book, practical insights for therapists and clients alike, and a behind-the-scenes look at the challenges and triumphs of deep inner work. Learn about the wisdom of the body from a depth psychology framework. Whether you’re a clinician, a psychology enthusiast, or simply curious about the therapeutic process, this episode is packed with valuable, thought-provoking content you won’t want to miss. Rafael and Barbara’s lively and heartfelt conversation is as timely as it is insightful. In the wake of recent tumultuous events in the United States, many people report feeling triggered, scared, or re-traumatized. This episode offers tools and perspectives to help listeners navigate these challenging times. In true Rafael fashion, he’s taking this knowledge global—literally! Shortly after recording this episode, he headed to Bulgaria and Hungary to share his expertise on trauma and addiction. Meanwhile, I’ll be holding down the fort. I must confess I am secretly jealous of Rafael’s jet setting ways, but mostly his frequent flyer points. Enjoy this episode whether you are traveling, working out, sitting down, lying down, or searching for frequent flyer points so you can hear Rafael speak somewhere abroad. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Love, Sex, and Partnering in the Second Half of Life 58:22

about a year ago58:22

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Join us for a 50-minute deep dive into everything you wanted to know about love, sex, and relationships in the second half of life. Featuring an expert panel: • Dr. John “The Caveman” Schinnerer - coach, educator, couples’ trainer, workshop leader, men’s group facilitator, and host of the “Evolved Caveman” podcast • Robby Kendall - psychologist, founder/president of Fishnets and Film, Inc , filmmaker, producer, educator, and drag queen • Linda Bloom - a celebrated marriage and relationship expert, workshop leader, author, therapist, and author • Vann Duke - coach, personal trainer, health consultant, actor, and founder of SecondHalf Fitness Moderated by Dr. James H. Bramson, this engaging and insightful live podcast promises to explore the challenges, joys, and opportunities of navigating relationships later in life. Don’t miss it! WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Unlocking the Mind-Body Connection: A conversation with Dr. Michael Changaris 55:24

about a year ago55:24

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In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Michael Changaris, an expert on neurobiology, the mind-body connection, and trauma. Dr. Changaris is a Psychologist, Zen practitioner, a professor in psychology at the Wright Institute, a writer, clinical trainer, and thought leader. Together we delve into his concept of synchromy - the synchronization between the mind, body, and nervous system - and how it plays a role in self-regulation, co-regulation, and healing. Dr. Changaris also opines about the evolution of marriage and family therapy. Plus he details how he uses Artificial Intelligence as a professional to up his game. I think of him like the Dennis Leary of Psychology. A huge compliment. Both have a quick wit and rapid fire speech, can hold your attention, and are passionate, relatable, funny, and accessible. The biggest difference is that Dr. Changaris is arguably more erudite and hails from the South, not Boston. In this episode you may need to hit the pause button, rewind, and get your pen and note pad out to keep up. I also suggest adjusting the speed of your playback system because you will be getting a master course on psychology/neurobiology and don’t want to miss one utterance. Of course a single episode is not nearly enough for this brilliant sage with a big heart . . .so hopefully we will get him back in the studio soon. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Creating Stories and Metaphors for Lasting Change: Unlocking Your Inner Wisdom Through Hypnosis, Narrative Therapy, and Story Telling 46:01

about a year ago46:01

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Dr. James H. Bramson Interviews Dr. Doris Brett (Following the ASH Conference) You should know who Dr. Doris Brett is. If you are living in Australia, New Zealand, or even Europe you may already know her work. She is a celebrated writer who has won numerous awards for her poems, novels, and children’s books. Dr. Doris Brett is also a captivating speaker and renowned clinical psychologist and hypnotherapist. I reconnected with her at the ASH (Australian Society of Hypnosis) conference in Cairns, Australia. I asked her for an interview and then stalked her and threatened to not leave Australia until she agreed … and, lucky for you all, she finally acquiesced. In this episode, Dr. Brett touches on several classic stories ripe with metaphors. As an example, do you know the famous story about a lost girl who starts off her misadventures in life by inadvertently killing someone? Then her circuitous journey leads her to three feckless male archetypal figures, who are also lost. They band together and set off to find what they’re missing inside. They eventually walk down a windy road and kill again, which sets them free. Their journey results in each of them becoming more enlightened, self-assured, self-directed, and happier. They even start singing together and find a skip in their step. Dr. Brett knows that you will easily recognize this familiar tale despite the cryptic setup. She opines that the way we setup a story or narrative framework is important. Have you figured it out? The above framework is the basis for the Wizard of Oz where two witches die. One witch dies at the beginning when Dorothy’s house lands on her. At the end, we all remember how the wicked witch melts (second death). Each character in Oz is a source of inspiration. Dorothy realizes she has always had the power to go back home, to find peace and strength within, and that she is not alone. Whereas the Scarecrow realizes he is smart, the Tin Man discovers his heart, and the Lion finds his courage. It’s a meta-story about not doubting ourselves and recognizing our full potential. It also illustrates the wisdom of questioning authority figures, false prophets, and autocratic leaders who rule by fear. The Wizard is a symbol of false authority or illusions of power until the curtain is pulled back. The Emerald city is a metaphor for a false utopia. The tornado represents upheaval, change, and a new phase of life. The story as a whole can be a psychological guide on resiliency, the importance of community, and finding your life path after a tragic event. Arduous events can test one’s soul and grit. Dr. Brett believes that hardships can lead to Post-Traumatic Growth. In brief, Dr. Brett illustrates how a familiar story like the Wizard of Oz can be rich with symbolism. Dr. Brett artfully uses this classic story and film, along with Greek mythology, ferry tales, and poems to help clients gain insights into their own life story - - that can lead to meaningful change. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Making your Worrier a Warrior: Becoming a Warrior with a Heart 44:41

about a year ago44:41

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Dr. Jim Bramson interviews Dr. Dan Peters Dr. Dan Peters is known to his clients and followers as Dr. Dan. He is a podcaster, author, therapist, and Executive Director at the Summit Center. In this episode he opines about how to “Make Your Worrier a Warrior” based on his seminal book by that same title. This shift from worrier to warrior benefits children inasmuch as parents. Dr. Dan is an expert on twice exceptional or multi-exceptional children. He discusses how to support the emotional needs of gifted children and all children. He touches on the topics of "perfectionism" and the importance of helping children feel like "they are enough." He encourages parents to instill positive self-worth in their kids. He thinks parents should avoid turning children into anxious achievers like themselves. Instead he believes that parents are most helpful and efficacious when they learn how to become mindful (peaceful) warriors with a heart. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Male Intimacy: The Benefits of Cultivating Authentic and Fulfilling Connections 56:52

about a year ago56:52

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Male Intimacy: The Benefits of Cultivating Authentic and Fulfilling Connections Hey guys— this one’s for you! In this episode, Rafael and Jim join forces again to help men discover the rewards of lasting male intimacy and friendships. These connections have been shown to reduce depression, anxiety, and feelings of isolation - - and can even lead to a longer life. Humor also helps. Comedian, Hunter Duncan, in one of his standup bits, shared that the dating app Bumble has a BFF version where you can just swipe your way into a male friendship. He admitted to trying it out to make new guy friends and confessed it was semi-disastrous: “People are looking at my profile like, I wouldn’t even throw a frisbee with this guy.” Hence, shrinks (including your hosts) stress the importance of men’s groups…. and other activities where men can cultivate authentic connections with other guys. Don’t give up hope, comrades: turns out men are teachable, and we can learn to get out of their own way. We can be re-socialized to be less competitive, ego-driven, approval-seeking, inauthentic, and stoic. Men can also learn to stop engaging in “one-upmanship” behavior (except maybe while watching sports, like say a football game between the Lions and the 49er’s (a random example that may or may be based on a lived experience between Jim and Rafael)). EBMC Psychology Inc. and WCMI (which sponsor this podcast) can link you to an active Men’s Group (contact Eti Kaminsky if you are interested: etimft@gmail.com or ebmcpsych@gmail.com ). WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here…

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Ageless Aging: How to maximize your lifespan, healthspan, brainspan and even your wealth span 52:40

about a year ago52:40