What Your Shame Spiral Is Trying to Tell You

Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Ever opened up to someone… and then immediately regretted it?
You’re lying in bed, replaying everything you said, wondering if you were too much, said too much, or scared them off. That shame spiral? It’s not just in your head. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why we feel so gross after being vulnerable—and how to stop letting that shame run the show. We’ll talk nervous system reactions, trauma responses, and what it really means when you overshare. Plus, I’ll give you some practical tools to regulate in the moment and find safer containers to be seen (without spiraling the next day).

You might want to listen if:

• You constantly second-guess yourself after deep conversations
• You’ve felt a “vulnerability hangover” and didn’t know how to come down from it
• You grew up being told you were too much, too sensitive, or too emotional
• You overshare to feel close but end up feeling exposed instead
• You want to feel safe being seen, without the shame spiral after

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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health ...

Chapters

1. Welcome to Speak Honest (00:00:00)

2. Dance of Attachment Book Announcement (00:01:04)

3. Why Oversharing Triggers Shame (00:02:28)

4. Understanding the Need for Connection (00:04:40)

5. Breaking the Shame Spiral (00:08:16)

6. Join the Dance Circle Community (00:13:34)