62. You Said You Forgave Him... So Why Are You Still Hurting?

Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Ever caught yourself thinking, “Why doesn’t this feel better yet... even though we said we’re moving forward?”
In this episode of Speak Honest, we’re diving deep into what it really takes to rebuild trust after a rupture and why it’s not as simple as saying “I forgive you.” I share the story of my client Maya, whose partner broke her trust financially, and how she moved from confusion and resentment to clarity and connection. We’ll talk about why self-trust is the real foundation of healing, how testing your partner might be a sign of unspoken pain, and the key difference between asking for what you need versus punishing someone for hurting you. It’s raw, it’s real, and it’s one of the most important conversations we’ve had yet.

You might want to listen if:
• You’re staying after a betrayal but still feel stuck or unsettled
• You’re constantly second-guessing your feelings or reactions
• You’ve been asking your partner for more... and it still doesn’t feel like enough
• You’re struggling to name your pain without feeling “too sensitive”
• You want to rebuild trust without abandoning yourself again

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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes fr...

Chapters

1. Introduction to Speak Honest Podcast (00:00:00)

2. What Rebuilding Trust Actually Looks Like (00:01:27)

3. Trust Is About Yourself, Not Just Them (00:05:25)

4. Repair vs. Testing: Stop Moving Goalposts (00:07:30)

5. From Pain to Partnership (00:11:19)

6. Invitation to Relationship Reboot Program (00:13:00)