Episode 111 - Spears and Switchblades: One Stubborn Species

Stop Making Yourself Miserable

Welcome back to our Podcast. and in this episode, we are going to explore the mysterious junction between human potential and the human predicament. Today, we’re diving into an idea that may sting a little at first, but, if we look closely, it might also open a hidden door to hope. It involves the unfortunate observation that while human technology, what we do, has evolved at an astonishing pace, human consciousness, who we actually are, has lagged significantly behind.

Our ability to split atoms, utilize instant global communications, and code digital realities has raced ahead at lightning speed, fueling our Modern Times. But our capacity for empathy, humility, compassion and having the capacity to be able to live a peaceful, and meaningful life looks much more like we’re still stuck the Middle Ages.

Which brings us to the content of this episode called “Spears and Switchblades: One Stubborn Species.” To help bring the basic idea into focus, we’re going to compare two of the most iconic love tragedies ever put on the stage: William Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet and its mid-20th century musical reincarnation, West Side Story. Though separated by more than 350 years, these two narratives—one set in Renaissance Verona and the other in 1950s New York City—are mirrors reflecting the same fundamental human flaws. Jealousy. Tribalism. Miscommunication , Stubborness and Pride, among many others. All of which are run by an emotional impulsivity that can turn love into war, and beauty into ashes.

So, the first question that we want to explore is: have we grown at all in the past 400 years? Or have we simply become more sophisticated in the weaponry that we have developed in order to kill each other more efficiently?

Let’s start with the core human dynamics that drive both plays, because even though they are separated by centuries, their basic human flaws remain exactly the same.

In Romeo and Juliet, two teenagers fall in love across the boundary of a family feud. The Montagues and Capulets have nursed a blood vendetta for so long that no one even remembers how it started. And it doesn’t matter anymore. They just plain hate each other. And its consequences are clear: violence in the streets, death, heartbreak, and ultimately, a double suicide. What are the dominant negative human traits here?

Hatred passed down like an heirloom

Honor culture run amok

Impetuous emotion overpowering reason

A lack of inner stillness or reflection, overcome by rage

Fast forward 400 years to West Side Story, and we meet Tony and Maria, two lovers from opposing street gangs: the Jets, composed mostly of white working-class youths, and the Sharks, made up of Puerto Rican immigrants. Once again, love blossoms in hostile soil, and once again, the terrible price of primal tribal hatred is death.

Different clothes, different slang, different soundtrack. Same madness. And this is the bottom line of the issue. Totally different external world, everything has changed, as well it should. After all, four hundred years have gone by and the situation facing the teenagers living in the streets of New York City would be absolutely unimaginable to the kids running around in the late 1500’s. Completely different on the outside – yet the inner madness remains exactly the same. And the ramifications of this imbalance are immense.

Let’s compare the outer worlds of these two stories:

Romeo and Juliet takes place in late 16th-century Verona. It’s a world without electricity, medicine as we know it, or organized police. Family ruled everything. Honor was a matter of life and death. Raw emotions emerged dramatically and physically. And the sword was both symbol and solution.

West Side Story unfolds in 1950s Manhattan, post-WWII. Televisions had entered the living room. Jet engines had conquered the sky. The UN had been formed, civil rights movements were stirring. Science had given us vaccines, electricity, and refrigeration. And yet... disputes were still settled with violence. In this case, the weapon of choice was the switch blade. Anger and tribal pride still led to bloodshed. And the beauty of love still ended in the tragedy funerals.

So, what changed? The world around us got faster, smarter and ever-more connected. But the world inside us? Pretty much the same old garbage pail.

And one of the primary central drivers in both stories is basic tribalism—the instinct to form in-groups and out-groups. The name of the game is us-versus-them. In Romeo and Juliet, the tribes are defined by blood. In West Side Story, by race and ethnicity. In both, the borders are irrational and absolute.

This human trait is ancient, seemingly almost hardwired into our survival code. We evolved in small tribes where loyalty equaled life, and strangers equaled threat. But now we live in megacities, online echo chambers where we’re still addicted to tribalism. We divide ourselves by politics, religion, race, nationality, gender identity, and more—often with a sense of inner hostility that’s far more emotional than rational.

In both plays, the pride of belonging to an in-crowd becomes a major fuse. Tybalt’s stone cold sense of us and them, along with an ego based identification with personal honor won’t let him ignore Romeo’s presence at the Capulet ball. Four hundred years later, Bernardo’s defense-based sense of belonging to the Sharks won’t let him see Tony as anything but another American self-entitled Jet. In both cases, primal tribal dignity demands a serious and significant attack against the perceived enemy.

So, the basic recipe for tragedy that spans the centuries remains the same: paranoid pride, mixed with anger and fear, driven by impulse and untampered by any wisdom or understanding turns into a violent weapon of darkness and death. In a certain sense, what happened to us over the years isn’t evolution at all. It’s just plain repetition

Unfortunately, of course this didn’t end in the late 1950’s. Far from it. While we’ve vastly upgraded our weaponry, we’ve also developed more subtle, yet powerful ways to threaten and hurt each other, like social media shaming for example, where it becomes pretty easy to ruin someone’s life just by pressing a few buttons.

In the time between William Shakespeare and Leonard Bernstein, humans invented calculus, steam engines, telegraphs, airplanes, televisions, and atomic bombs. We mapped the human genome. We put men on the moon.

But we still haven’t figured out what we’re really all about. Oh, we all know how to chase things, but are these things that we’ve been programmed to chase real, or they just illusions? Maybe we’re just addicted to chasing, itself. In that regard, we’ve all heard about the tendency of dogs to chase cars. But there are two key aspects to that particular pursuit. One – the dog can never really catch the car. It is much too fast for it. And secondly – what happens if the dog actually does catch the car and we all know the answer to that – nothing. The dog can’t do anything if and when it catches the car.

It's the same way for us. We’re just running after things on the outside, oblivious to who we really are and what we are really made of, not to mention what can actually make us truly happy and satisfied.

And all of this goes on while we continue to improve our technology by leaps and bounds. Yet, we still don’t know how to disagree without resorting to violence. We still haven’t universally adopted the idea that every human being, regardless of their identity, has intrinsic value. We still raise children who feel unloved, unheard, or unsafe. We’re still driven by fear disguised as pride. We still confuse dominance with dignity. And we still kill the thing we love because we don’t know how to hold it.

And the bottom line of it all is basically defending the inherent illusion of our ego selves, which is still at the basic foundation of our inner C-Suite. As such, we still confuse noise with strength. And we still take most the good things in our life for granted, which is truly tragic. Like Joni Mitchell sang in a seemingly earlier age, “Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.” As it all continues to spiral further, in so many ways, the message to us is crystal clear – It’s time to wake up and grow up.

Romeo and Juliet loved across a line they weren’t supposed to cross. Tony and Maria did it too. Their love was a shining light in the midst of all this darkness. Even though everything seemed to be against them, they knew what they had. And we knew it too. And despite what we knew it was that they were facing, we all rooted for them, because something about the higher thing in life, the Better Angels of Our Nature, speaks to the deepest part of our intelligence, both in our hearts and in our minds.

We have more tools than ever to connect across cultures, to educate, to innovate, to heal. And yet, we still face the same old demons. But here’s the good news: we are capable of change. Unlike the characters in those plays, our story isn’t written yet. We are not locked in a script. We can choose awareness. We can choose evolution.

The keynote to both of these tragedies is that it is time to individually bring our inner light to our own inner darkness. The Wisdom of the Ages as well as modern brain science tell us that we do have the power to protect this light from the winds of hate, fear and pride, and that we can, and essentially must, cultivate the inner skills of patience, compassion, empathy, and yes - courage.

NeuroHarmonics: Inner Technology for a New Humanity

That’s what the NeuroHarmonic Method is all about: cultivating the inner circuitry to match the brilliance of our outer inventions. It’s not just about brainwaves or affirmations or even spirituality. It’s about training the nervous system to return to equilibrium, to respond rather than react, to perceive the human being behind the mask, and ultimately to shift from emotional immaturity to presence. From the rage of vengeance to an intuitive sense grace. But this is a path toward real evolution that can only be travelled one person at a time. Because the world won’t evolve until we do it individually. Not really.

So here we are, somewhere between Shakespeare’s Verona and the 21st century, still caught in the drama. But I hate to tell you that the Bard didn’t invent this particular tale. The truth is, it stands atop a mountain of ancient stories echoing the same theme—love thwarted by fate, culture, or conflict. And this motif is not unique to the Renaissance or even to Western civilization.

The same basic story can be found in the cultures of ancient Greece and Rome, Babylon, ancient Egypt, Persia, and India. Indeed, it’s one of the most enduring themes in human storytelling. And the deeper you dig, the further back you go, the more you realize: the tragedy of love versus society and the battle of light versus darkness is as old as storytelling itself.

But maybe, just maybe, we’re ready to write a different ending. One where love doesn’t die. One where pride yields to peace. One where technology finally partners with wisdom.

Let’s imagine a future version of West Side Story, maybe 400 years from now. What would it take for that version not to be a tragedy?

Maybe the gangs might still exist, but their interchange would consist of words instead of weapons.

Maybe love would not be hidden in the shadows, but declared in daylight.

Maybe reconciliation would be taught in schools, right alongside science and math.

Maybe forgiveness would be considered a mark of strength, not weakness.

Consciousness evolution would be about not just developing new tools, but new tendencies, moving us from:

From reaction to reflection

From judgment to curiosity

From pride to presence

From tribalism to universalism

It means valuing not just intelligence, but wisdom.

This all represents something to look forward to and welcome into our lives in the here and now, as much as we are able. And if we’re not able to yet, at least we can make our intentions known to ourselves.

Well, this will be the end of this episode. As always, keep your eyes, mind and heart open, and let’s get together in the next one.