If I Hurt Me First, You Can’t: A Conversation on Emotional Self-Sabotage

That Makeup Gal

Ever feel like you’re dating with one hand on your heart and the other on the eject button? Same.

In this episode, I’m talking sabotage, specifically, how I’ve masterfully self-destructed potential relationships before they had a chance to disappoint me. From wearing the “unbothered cool girl ” mask while emotionally dissociating, to mistaking my anxious attachment for “gut instinct,” I’m unpacking how I got in my own damn way. Plus, we’re chatting about what emotional availability actually means, and why your attachment style might just be running your love life like a drunk CEO.

It’s messy.

It’s honest.

It’s good vibes.

Understanding Attachment Styles:

• Psych Central: 4 Attachment Styles in Relationships
  https://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships#attachment-types
  
  
• Simply Psychology: Attachment Styles in Adult Relationships
  https://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment-styles.html
  
  
• Columbia Psychiatry: How Attachment Styles Influence Romantic Relationships
  https://www.columbiapsychiatry.org/news/how-attachment-styles-influence-romantic-relationships

Overcoming Self-Sabotage:

• Psychology Today: 6 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotage
  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-for-happiness/202209/6-ways-to-stop-self-sabotage
  
  
• Insights Psychology: Self-Sabotage – Why We Do It & How to Break the Cycle
  https://insightspsychology.org/self-sabotage-psychology-destructive-habits/
  
  
• Calm Blog: Self-Sabotaging – What It Is, Causes, and How to Stop
  https://blog.calm.com/blog/self-sabotaging
  

Free Mental Health Support in Australia:

• Beyond Blue: 24/7 Support for Anxiety, Depression, and Suicide Prevention
  https://www.beyondblue.org.au
  
  
• Healthdirect: Mental Health Helplines
  https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/mental-health-helplines
  
  
• MindSpot: Free Digital Psychological Care
  https://www.mindspot.org.au/
  
  
• NSW Health: Mental Health Services and Support Contact List
  https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/mentalhealth/services/Pages/support-contact-list.aspx

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