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Embracing and Honoring My Superpower
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Molly Beyer discusses what she’s learned about herself and what she has identified as her personal superpower in life. Molly’s superpower is her ADHD. She talks about the two very different sides of her - analytical and data-driven versus emotional - and how learning how to work with both sides is how she came to learn she’s ADHD. She walks us through why ADHD requires strategy to manage but why it’s also her self-identified superpower.
One of the great gifts of Molly’s superpower is her ability to intentionally focus on 1000s of lines of data, huge pieces of information, and parse them down efficiently. She explores why some things that may seem limiting work as a superpower when directed properly. And her message throughout the episode is one of authentically embracing who we each are as individuals. Identify our superpowers and then embrace them.
Molly says she’s a work in progress, still learning to fully honor her superpower. She uses scripts to stay focused because the passion she has for things she enjoys can bubble over and send her off-track. That’s part of the identification process and Molly’s vulnerability in sharing her ADHD journey sheds light on how we can turn what may seem chaotic or difficult into a very unique ability that only we possess.
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Molly 0:08
Hello, hello. I am Molly Beyer, host of the Ambiguous &: Business Basics and Beyond, a podcast where we have frank discussions on the basics of business with a holistic focus on everything that helps business owners define and find success. There are so many ands that impact being your own boss. Join us as we explore all these ands and more. Like subscribe or follow wherever you get your podcasts, and let's explore these ambiguous and.
0:38
Hello and welcome to the Ambiguous &: Business Basics and Beyond. I'm your host, Molly Beyer, and I'm here to lead you through frank and holistic conversations on the basics of business.
0:50
One of the most common responses that I get from the people in my world to my podcast, presentations, workshops, things like that, that I do is that I sound scripted. This is because I have to use scripts. I'm super passionate, I'm really knowledgeable, but if left to my own devices, I would talk on such a winding journey that you wouldn't even know where we started by the end. One of the things that I tell people about me when I first meet them, is that I am a total Chaos Monkey. You never know when I'm going to just sit there, you know, being cute, eating snacks, or when I'm going to start playing in poo. It's a great icebreaker, but it also is a really great opportunity for me to start a conversation about sort of the weird chaos that I am. I have two really very distinct sides to me. I am super data driven. I am incredibly analytical. I am really smart, and I can tell you that it's taken me a long time to embrace the fact that I am very smart. I am intelligent, and I have a lot of street smarts, but I am also incredibly emotional, and I love to just reach down into people. You know, if I ask you how you are, like, I don't I don't want that surface crap. I don't do surface conversations. Like, I want you to reach down in your soul and grab, like, your deepest, darkest secrets and just like, throw them out on the table so we can look at them and figure them out.
2:17
That's amazing. And I love that. And trying to find a space for these two things to live together has been really, really, really, really hard. I always felt like I was normal, but also abnormal, like it was really, super awkward. You know, I would see other people, and I'm like, I know I don't act like they do. And I would say awkward things, and I would say, people look at me. I There's very distinct looks, and I can remember every single one that ever happened of people looking at me like, who are you? Like, I'm just this total alien. And I realized that people don't actually want honesty and all this stuff, like, there's just, there's these things about who I am and sort of what my general nature is, it's like I am not like other people.
3:07
But I also had things about me that I thought everybody had, again, like these, this, this data side, this, this ability to grab big pieces of information and really see all of its pieces and parse it down and learn a lot about a subject in a very small amount of time. And maybe it was pretty, you know, surface level knowledge. It maybe wasn't mastery, but I knew a lot of stuff, so I kind of felt like a jack of all trades and a master of none. So,well, I felt exceedingly normal. Life also felt exceedingly awkward, and so what I realized just in the last couple of years is that I actually have ADHD and this, learning this about myself has been a great opportunity for me to see all of those things in my life that I did just sort of deal with it, how I've used different coping techniques to get through it, and so, yeah, it kind of sucks that there was, you know, there's a lot of masking going on, but the benefit of masking, the benefit of of learning how to be who people wanted me to be in this society, is that I watched people, I watched people who I thought were normal and who were you know, interacting the ways that I thought that people were supposed to, and so I started to sort of emulate the things that they were doing. This is also how we change our behaviors. This is something that's super important to me. Is when, when there's something we want, we decide what it is we want. We look for masters and mentors. We learn about that subject so that we become a subject matter expert, but we also can change sort of who we are fundamentally by acting in those ways that look closer to what it is we want to be. And so masking really helped me to one: kind of become a pretty cool person, because I was surrounded by really neat people. And so a lot of my personality has been defined by these really, really amazing people in my world, but also it's helped me to be really focused on people and on how to make people comfortable. And so see, this is getting super chaotic because, like, I am off script. This is what I'm talking about. So my superpower is ADHD,
5:26
When aimed with intention, it is totally my superpower. So I'm weird and I'm awkward, but I've also learned how to interact with, like, everybody. And I realized through time too, that sort of data parsing, this ability that I had to take these big pieces of information and really parse them down. I thought everybody could do that, but everybody can't do that. And I didn't learn that until I started my own business and started hiring employees, and was like, why can't they do what I do? And then I started to realize they can't do what I do, because this is a superpower, my ability to go in and look at a huge spreadsheet, 1000s and 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of lines of data and pick out the four lines that are different. You know, it's like, AI could do it, but Molly can too. This is pretty cool. And so, like realizing that we all are weird and chaotic, like, we all have our own stuff going on, but when we can figure out what those things are and how they really help us deal well in this world that's really figuring out what our superpowers are and embracing them, and that's one of...
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