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10 The Nice Guy Trap: Stop Losing Yourself to Keep the Peace
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In this episode, couples therapist LaTrease Nwunye breaks down why “sacrifice” often breeds resentment and how reframing it as a conscious choice can transform your relationship.
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We dive into the hidden costs of the nice guy mindset, why leadership isn’t about control, and practical ways men can communicate needs without guilt. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re giving everything and getting nothing back, this conversation will give you tools to change that dynamic today.
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Chapters
1. Introduction – The Nice Guy Problem (00:00:00)
2. Why “Sacrifice” Creates Resentment (00:01:10)
3. Conscious Choice vs. Sacrifice in Love (00:05:30)
4. Masculinity, Change, and Identity (00:10:00)
5. Leadership vs. Control in Relationships (00:15:00)
6. Healthy Boundaries and Emotional Honesty (00:20:00)
7. How to Communicate Needs Kindly (00:25:00)
8. Anger as a Bouncer, Not a Weapon (00:30:00)
9. Feminine Reactivity, Masculine Withdrawal (00:35:00)
10. Domestic Leadership and Gender Roles (00:40:00)
11. Final Reflections & Practical Takeaways (00:45:00)
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